Have 2 boys but want a baby girl, how likely is it and am I just being greedy?

[maybebaby3]

I have 2 gorgeous healthy boys, 3 and 6 months and I love them both to bits, but it seems that everyone around me is having girls, especially those friends who have one boy then give birth to a girl, leaving me with some mega girl envy

I would love a baby girl, but hubby thinks he only has boy sperm! I'm not sure if I want a third, but not sure how I would feel 5 years down he line without another child or more importantly a little girl? (I'm 39 so time is running out)

Anyone else feel the same and torn whether to go for a third child? or does anyone out there have 2 boys then got a 3rd boy, how was it? or got a girl?

Love to hear your experiences and thoughts, thanks!

I always thought I would have boys. I have a brother and my mum has 7 brothers and grew up on a farm. I do not come from a girly environment and am not very girly myself. So I thought I would have boys. Imagine my surprise when I ended up with 2 girls! And particularly my eldest is sooo girly. Completely alien to me.

But, you know I was quite happy with my two girls. I think same sex siblings are nice (whether boys or girls) as they tend to be quite close.

However, my husband and I were uncareful one day and I got pregnant unexpectedly. And...now have a boy. I am not surprised that it was a boy as I said before I always thought I would have a boy, but I don't think I would have been bothered if it had been another girl. In fact, when I knew the sex of the baby when I was still pregnant people were so rediculously pleased that it was a boy, that I almost got angry for the girl that it wasn't, IYSWIM? Would people have been disappointed for me if it had been a girl? That thought just made me so cross!!

Thanks everyone for your comments. Now 2 months on I've still not come to terms with it. I'm terrified I'm not going to bond with the baby. I still can't 'see' myself with 2 boys, and I can't visualise my son with a brother, however hard I try. I've been having counselling for 6 wks now, which has unearthed a whole load of stuff from my past which I thought I'd dealt with, and possibly explains some of my reasons for so passionately wanting a girl, but so far I haven't reached any resolution, or way to move forward. I want nothing more than to be happy with what I've been given, and the fear of not bonding with the baby consumes me. I already feel so guilty for all the sadness and depression I've been feeling during this pregnancy, as I know my emotions can be felt by the baby. I'm trying to act normally, but inside I'm still a crying mess.

oh my goodness, i have 2 boys and they love each other so so much, the interaction is amazing, the sharing of toys, the same everything is so lovely.

tbh i think its always hard to even imagine having a second child never mind the gender but it will all work out you have to believe.

counselling is there to unravel whatever they can find, otherwise they wouldn't be doing their job and basically its normal for anyone to have stuff brought up regardless.... hard to word what i'm saying but i hope you get what i mean.

anyway, its hard, i understand more than you can imagine, but try to enjoy your pregnancy now, look forward to the birth of your new baby, this time right now you can never get back, hence your feelings of guilt, but its not too late to change your perspective. my ds2 was a very clingy baby and even as a toddler now and i wonder if he is doing it because he felt my sadness during my pregnancy, but hun, i love him more than anything in the world and that clinginess just makes me want him more....

you will bond with the baby, don't set yourself up with a self fulfilling prophecy that you won't. think of a third child once your baby is born, and until then chin up, wipe away those tears and enjoy your baby growing inside you.

Hi,

We too used the same book but in our case had two boys and wanted a girl. It seems to have worked for us as I am expecting a girl in april and really think the book had great tips. For a girl we avoided having intercourse at ovulation time (started trying 8 days before and worked nearer to ovulation over a few months), tight underpants also recommended for men who have fathered several boys to get the sperm count down. I also followed the diet to a degree and avoided cereals and fizzy drinks.

Definately worth a read................

Hi
When I was pg with my first child I really wanted a boy and when I found out I was having a girl, I'm ashamed to admit that I was really disappointed. I think maybe I had an inate belief that girls are more difficult and when I was a teenager, my mum and I used to clash terribly. To this day I feel guilty that I ever felt that way because she is so wonderful but at the time, my feelings were very real.
When I got pregnant the second time, we did try around ovulation time to increase the chances of having a boy and that is what we were blessed with. I was delighted but I would also have been delighted with another girl because as soon as I set eyes on dd1 I loved her immediately and I realised that when you meet your baby, you simply cannot imagine them any other way. The child you are given is the child you were meant to have.

Hello, I have 2 boys - 4 and 2 and am contemplating a 3rd. They are HARD work, very noisy but oh so worth it! They also get on incredibly well (inbetween the wrestling!) so I have a lot to consider in terms of family dynamics and whether or not I have enough patience for 3 (especially as they are getting that bit easier the older they get) Before having children I had always imagined I would have a girl so was pretty shocked when a scan revealed a boy with my first son. I had secretly hoped (my husband also) that our second baby would be a girl so again, when scan revealed the all important male bits I swallowed hard and although delighted that all seemed healthy, I shed a little tear (on my own that evening) - I felt like I was mourning the daughter I would probably never have HOWEVER my opinon on girl/boy preference has completely changed since having DS2. I love them both immensely and am so grateful for them. Their sex has become totally irrelevant, I don't have that yearning for a girl like I did just before my second son was born. I don't know what has exactly changed except perhaps an overwhelming appreciation for things just the way they are - because I truly feel you are blessed with your children of a particular sex for a reason. Both my boys give me so much joy I couldn't imagine it any other way. If we do decide to have a third child I can honestly say, hand on heart I would be over the moon to have another son.

Maybebaby3, what did you decide? It's 2014 and I'm curious. I'm in your shoes. Have 2 DS and deciding if we should try for a girl.

I have a dd who is a total tom boy and more of a boy than her brother. Never assume a girl is a girly child

My husband grew up as the third son of parents who really wanted a girl - his relationship with his father was always rocky and he felt like he was a byproduct of his parents' desire for a girl. He has self-esteem issues stemming, I'm sure, from feeling like he wasn't what his parents wanted.

We had two boys then had a third child, I was hoping for a girl but got a third boy and have been happy to have three boys.

The thing is if you tried for another it would have to be because you wanted another baby and not because you want a girl because no-one not even a top scientist can guarantee you'll get your desired gender.

I am a mum of three boys (6,3,1) and whilst I did secretly hope my first child would be a girl I then went on to really want a boy second time round as my desire for ds1 to have a brother was far stronger than my desire for a daughter. Third time round I was totally set on having a boy out of sheer protectiveness for the two I already had, I didn't want a girl to come along and everyone think she was more special than my boys.Of course I would have loved a girl too but it is lovely for them to grow up all boys together. I've never personally come across male/female siblings with the same bond as same sex siblings. My three boys are the light of my life and once you hold that baby in your arms you will love it no matter what, I think we all know that as mothers!

I have 3 boys. When the ultrasound showed I was having a 3rd, I was very disappointed, but now I wouldn't have it any other way, and here's why:

1. They are all totally different in personality and interests. They are as different as if they were different genders.
2. I get to go to the restroom by myself in public places.
3. I am still The Number One Female to my husband.
4. I think boys are closer to their mothers, in general. From what I see, and my own experience, mothers and daughters clash more.
5. There is nothing like the pride I feel as my oldest begins to turn into a handsome, brilliant, responsible young man.
6. I didn't have to buy any new girly things and the boys' clothes are just as cute these days (in my opinion)... I mean-- who doesn't like cute animals and bears more than Barbie and Disney Princesses? NO COMPARISON!!
7. How cute is it to dress all 3 alike? I did that for many years when they were younger!
8. It is so fabulous to realize that your body can produce 3 human beings of the opposite gender... What a miracle!
9. I have the amazing opportunity of raising SONS in a world where so many men can be so sexist. I have been trusted and gifted with this chance to help shape my sons to be ethical, moral, respectful of women, caring for the less fortunate and having the right values. We need more men like my sons!!
10. and lastly (and most importantly!) it is truly fab to be Queen Of My House! Being the only female is wonderful! I get special treatment at every turn. I wouldn't relinquish that position for anything in the world :)

Good afternoon,
I am a mum of 4 boys and I am now 5mths pregnant with baby number 5..and its a little GIRL..which is what I have always wanted since I was a young girl myself. I have lost 11 babies in the past 9yrs including 3 babies this year. We lost a little girl in February this year at 7weeks pregnant but we didn't find out about her passing until I was 11weeks pregnant, then on Mother's day this year we lost another baby and then we lost another baby on 7th july..not even 2weeks later we fell pregnant with this little angel..so far everything is going great..she is growing well...I was so excited when I found out that it was a little girl cos this is my last baby. I cant wait to meet my little princess..Due 13th April 2015..(p.s Have hope and faith..and be patient...your wish will come true if you just relax...

I Thought generally some men can't produce girl sperm and some women can't carry boys.

I have 2 dc one ds and one dd I always wanted 1 boy 1 girl but partners family is mostly boys and we were sure we would end up with 2 boys which I honestly didn't mind my mum is a biology teacher she says earlier in the cycle girl later boy and she's right that's how we ended up with dd

Next door neighbors were in same boat. 2 boys, gave it one last go for a girl. Ended up with twin boys. I guess the moral is be sure you want another baby (or babies!) more than you want a girl.

ZOMBIE THREAD FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!