Have 2 boys but want a baby girl, how likely is it and am I just being greedy?

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I have 2 gorgeous healthy boys, 3 and 6 months and I love them both to bits, but it seems that everyone around me is having girls, especially those friends who have one boy then give birth to a girl, leaving me with some mega girl envy

I would love a baby girl, but hubby thinks he only has boy sperm! I'm not sure if I want a third, but not sure how I would feel 5 years down he line without another child or more importantly a little girl? (I'm 39 so time is running out)

Anyone else feel the same and torn whether to go for a third child? or does anyone out there have 2 boys then got a 3rd boy, how was it? or got a girl?

Love to hear your experiences and thoughts, thanks!

If you are really want a girl then adopt one. There are plenty of little girls that need a loving family.

OMG just looked at the ingender website. Check out 'Extreme At Home Swaying'.

I would dearly love a boy.

Hi there
I have two boys and am pregnant with a little girl i was over the moon when i found out it was a girl. I bought that book how to choose the sex of your baby and tried to stop having sex at the start 3 days before ovulation then when nothing happened went to 2 days before ovulation and kept going until i gave up and thought i dont care what the sex is so ended up having sex on ovulation day and thats when i became pregnant with a girl so i really dont think you can say if you have sex on ovulation day you'll end up with a boy because i had a 4d scan and seen all the bits and its defo a girl. i looked up your odds of having a girl after having two boys and from ststistics taken you are 46.6% chance of a girl after two boys so good luck to you.

Julie
xx

Hi all,
I am a mom of two boys 13, and 11. I was posative after my second son i didnt want any more. But lately the last few years we have tried for a girl using the method of sex selection but to no avail. so i gave up and went on the pill (cerezette) which i have been on for four years.
When i had my first son i had placenta abruption and nearly died had to have emergency c-section and both daniel and me were lucky to live.Due to that Daniel is now severly disabled and has autism as well as serious communicational problems and social interaction. He is having a brain scan later this month as his behaviour is out of control.The placenta was blocking the birth canal but the hospital missed it on my scan and i almost bleed to death. Ben came along two years later (Safely) another c-section. I am 39,and would love a little girl yet coming off the pill also is hard as i would have to wait a while before my cycle kicks in and then do all the temperture taking and so forth. As much as i want a girl i dont have the patience or the stress levels to cope with all that. I dont know weather to just try and what will be will be. or to count my blessings to be alive at all. My doctor said im healthy and should try if thats what i really want, but i'm also concerned how a new baby will effect Daniel as he is a very loving child but very demanding.I know i will regreat it if i dont try and my husband really wants another baby no matter boy or girl. my mom says to do what makes me happy.

You have to want a third child.

I had 2 boys and then 2 girls. Obviously we wanted a 3rd child and we didn't mind what it was. Having said that we avoided sex around ovulation for dc 3 & 4. In fact for dd1 (dc3) we last had sex on day 7 of my cycle and conceived. Did the same for dc4 and had another girl. I know my boys were conceived pretty close to ovulation.

I don't know if timing actually had anything to do with it or if it was pot luck.

You absolutley have to want another child. Dh and I would have been perfectly happy with another boy, we just gave the book (How to choose the sex of your baby) a go.

i have two boys and would love another child, (girl or boy), in fact i would love more children. but no man = no children and tbh, i think i will probably avoid a serious relationship til the boys are grown and independant of me. by which time i will probably be too old to have any more.

I had ds first then 2 DDs. The second was conceived on ovulation day. If we go for dc4 I'd like another ds to balance things up but would be happy with another dd. Especially if dd3 ended up as gorgeous as dd1 and 2.

I have one DS and expecting another a second DS. After learning that we will have 2 boys, I felt devastated for a week or two, since as many from you I come from a completely "girly" family. Then I questioned myself for a while - would I go for another child in a bid to get a girl? Later I adjusted my mind and after all realised, that sometimes wanting a girl is influenced by society because "everyone wants a girl", or it is "expected to have a boy and a girl".. As a matter of fact, from the deepest of my heart, I don't really care anymore - I thought I wanted a girl, but i am as much happy with boys, and I wouldn't be going for the third child because I will be complete with two, and boys or girls it does not really matter! I second the opinion that you should only go for a child if you don't care about the gender.

This is an oooold thread!

yes but still relevant. I think it's only natural to want one or the other or one of each but it really is crazy. anyone with a child should be so grateful for that gift at all. I know it's a cliche and you've already said you know all that and you're feeling guilty for feeling that way - don't beat yourself up about it but seriously just look at the kids you've already got and put your energy into loving them instead.
boys rock.
Think of all the worries that go with having teenage daughters and be glad for your boys!!
not to mention the high pitched squealing..
boys are more exhausting but they tend to have far better toys :)
i'm sure there's probably a thread on here about people desperate for a boy...!

It is an old thread.

I have two DDs but always expected to have DS's.

DH is one of two brothers, his father is one of three brothers and so it goes on - all males in the family.

I was very surprised when we had DD1. Shocked when we had DD2 - I know DD2 was conceived on ov day too. So anything can happen.

I feel utterly spoilt that I have the two lovely chilren we have, would love a third, but DH won't have it.

"Choose the Sex of Your Baby: the Natural Way" by Hazel Chesterman Phillips- this book worked for us!!! Can be harder if you are trying for a girl though!

Well said mamajk

Well as there's a 50 per cent chance of having another boy don't have a third unless you want a third child rather than a daughter. I have one son and one daughter. My daughter was my fifth pregnancy(about which most people don't know) and I know that I lost two boys. I think you are being bloody selfish and should be grateful for the children you have, especially if you have had no heartbreak to have them. I would have loved a third child but I couldn't face the strong possibility of having to deal with another miscarriage. With hindsight if what happened hadn't have happened I wouldn't have the children I ended up with and that is unimaginable because they are both so fantastic.

hi.
I did the hazel chesterman book for two years with no success at all. I have two boys age 13 and 11 and would dearly love a girl. I,m not sure about the timing thing at all as we tried continueously and not even a hint of pregnancy. yet i caught straight away for my boys. I'm 39 and time is running out am still taking cerezette until the time is right for us. dont know wether to take a chance and try straight after stopped pill as they say its a very fertile window. or to plan it properly have a cycle and then try. yet god knows when my cycle will return as have been on it for 5 years and i may not catch at all.periods can take up to a year to return by which time i may have missed my chance. yet if i dive straight in i run a high risk of mc or ectopic pregnancy which would devestate me. has any one any advice? please all would be welcomed.

I have one son, and was desperate desperate for a girl. Found out at scan yesterday that we're having another son, and I feel totally devastated. We tried everything with the sex selection methods, but obviously it didn't work. I feel like my life is now going to be incomplete for ever, and am grieving for the girl I'm never going to have. I'd love to chat to anyone who's been through this grieving process, to talk about how you got through it, and if there's any light at the end of the tunnel. Please don't have a go at me for being ungrateful for what I've got, I'm fully aware of that, and the added guilt it brings me is only compounding my total misery.

poor children

kittycat6, I'm genuinely interested, why were you so desperate for a girl? I can't think of anything you could do with a girl that you can't do with a boy. If you were hoping for a girly girl who you can go shopping with, get nails done etc there was no guarantee your daughter would be into those things anyway! Plus there is no reason you would be closer to a girl than a boy. For example, my SIL and MIL clash all the time while DH is very close to his mum and they have long gossipy chats on the phone!

Boys are not necessarily rough-and-tumble, girls are not necessarily pink and sparkly. When I was pregnant with DC2, a friend was watching DH play football with DD1 and commented 'he really needs a son!' It really pissed me off as he doesn't need a son, he has DD! And he feels the same.

DC2 was a second girl and I'm ashamed to admit I had a very brief pang of disappointment when we found out as I always imagined us with one of each. But of course now I wouldn't have it any other way, I love my kids for their personality not their gender.

I hope you can resolve this before your DS is born.

Can't believe this thread is still going, my boys are now 4.5 and 23 months! Time has flown by and no third baby and don't see it happening. My boys are so great, ds2 was crying in a shop today sat in his buggy lots of tears and when outside standing at the crossing ds1 went over to ds2 kissed his head and wiped his tears, it was so sweet. The relationship they have I hope will develop into a lifetime of friendship. Ds2 has been so unlike ds1 he is very clingy and I wonder if that's because I over mother him because people felt sorry for me. when I found out he was another boy I was so happy I didn't care about the gender ( we mmc in between) but when I was showing people would ask and then the comments began " oh never mind" " you can try again"...... WTF all before ds2 was even born! With that since his birth and my guilt of wanting a dd I am so protective over him and love him more than I could imagine. I am far too soft on him but I don't care.

Anyway I am sure that is where my desire started, my wanting approval or whatever and not be pitied as I felt I was being, but I realize now people who make those comments are ignorant, I mean asking the question of what are you having is so normal yet so stupid " i'm having a baby" I wish I would have replied " and I hope a healthy one"

Anyway kitty prepare for stupid comments and look forward to your new baby that if like mine completely different from ds1.

Focus on the positives, your life may never had been complete had you never met your dp, never had ds1, never got that job, was a size x...... You have so much

Sadly for me growing up in a v dysfunctional family I realize I may have wanted to recreate what I never had , that mother daughter, sister sister relationships as the empty is so more apparent once I had my own family, but I realize now that it's so not about gender, it's about me making sure my boys grow up with the love support etc to feel secure in life, if i had a fraction of what I give them now I'm sure my insecurities of never having a daughter would have been insignificant.

Anyway it's all very disjointed but I hope this helps anyone who relates in any way.

For kittykat6,
I feel for your disapointment and can appriciate how wanting a girl so much feels like the world has come to an end. I too am trying for a daughter i am doing the diet, timing and the best positions. you have to increase your chances if you want it badly enough, but there are no guarantees no matter what you do. if its going to be a boy then so be it. Surely a healthy baby is whats most important as i know how it feels to have a child born with a disability. Both my son and i nearly died in surgery and now hes disabled for life. life is so precious and so is your little boy. maybe you could try again later for a girl for now be happy you have a healthy boy and love him no matter what. both my sons are a blessing and even if i dont get my daughter i will always be grateful for them. some people cant have kids at all.

putthekettleon I was about to post the exact same thing as you! All of my friends were desperate for a girl- some have them and some havent. I'm not bothered and have never really had a burning desire to have one. They have asked me today why I don't want a daughter. I said it wasn't that I don't want one, but I'm not desparate for one. What would I do with a girl that I wouldn't do with a boy? I don't think they are more likely to look after me in my old age (the only reason I've been given!) and I don't particularly want to do 'girly' things, and neither might they! In my experience that depends on the personality of the child- I know men who are much closer to their mothers and do much more than their sisters (including my brother) and lots of women who spend their whole time arguing with their mothers. I genuinely don't understand it!

hi,my own reason's for wanting a girl are from my childhood. I have two brothers one older and one younger. I always wanted a sister but it never happened.Both my brothers have boys and my husband's brother has one of each. my mom had four sisters. I never had any female cousins till i was 18. When my mom remarried i had a step sister for a while and we realy got on well, she was an only child and like me wanted a sister. her wish came true when her dad remarried again and they had another daughter. I missed my frienship with my stepsister and am not that close to my mom. Its all about having the relationship and doing girly things and growing together.Her wedding her first baby, shopping together. having that mother and daughter bond. but if it doesnt happen im ok with that too as my boys are more than enough for me.I think people who end up having both sexes are very lucky they have the best of both worlds.

Have the people who followed the Hazel Chesterman book and got a girl done just the timing for intercourse, or the diet as well? I have twin boys, so have to decide not only if I want another baby, but also whether I am prepared to risk another two baby boys (four boys sounds like a lot to me!). Although I know the decision has to be whether we want more children or not (regardless of sex) I think it is natural to have a preference (usually what you dont already have) and if you can take steps to try and get your preference is there anything wrong with that?

I have 2 boys and i'm expecting a little girl in April. There's a slightly higher chance of having a boy again if you have two girls (47.8%girl v 52.8% boy). We did the timing thing as it was recommended by my ob/gyn. He recommended abstaining from sex 48 hours before ovulating. I bought some ovulation kits and monitored cycle for 3 months before TTC.

dd has 2 boys,her dh is one of 2 boys and his family have a tendency to have boys.She says she wont have another because the 2 she has are perfect.