Absolutely fuming at what I perceive to be lazy parenting causing my daughter to be injured today

[Blottedcopybook]

When I take my kids out anywhere, I can appear rude in company because I'm extremely easily distracted because I watch my kids like a hawk. I don't let them behave like little brats both because I want them to grow up and have respect for people around them, and I don't want anybody to be able to judge me as a lazy or bad parent. I don't consider the local soft play to be somewhere I can dump and ignore my little horrors as they rampage around the place with no consideration or care for anyone else, I actually watch what they're up to.

I'm just back from A&E with a concussed, grumpy and sore 22 month old DD. We were at the soft play this afternoon and she had come over to where I was sitting to get a drink. As she turned to go back and play, a group of half a dozen boys aged roughly 5-6 years old came running down from the SEATING AREA (not the soft play section) with such speed that when the ringleader hit DD (with his hands out, which was dreadfully kind of him) he knocked her off her feet and she flew a good three feet backwards before landing on the back of her head. Her eyes rolled back in her head and she vomited before starting screaming, I was leaping out of my seat at this point and angrily told the boy (without shouting, I might add) that he was running far too fast and should have more consideration for the other children. At this point, the group of adults with these little sh!ts were maybe three or four picnic tables behind me and not one of them moved until I gave this child into trouble. Not one of them asked if she was okay, or if they could help me. I'm 7 months pregnant and was there with my three children.

DD was BY FAR not the smallest kid there. We had to leave to go to A&E and getting our stuff together took a good 10 minutes during which time this group were in the baby & toddler section throwing balls at each other and generally being rowdy which is FINE for a soft play environment, but specifically why there are age-specific areas. None of the parents intervened, none of them apologised for DD getting hurt and none of them offered to help me get out to her car with one screaming hurt toddler, another screaming upset toddler who was frightened and worried about his sister and the 7 year old carrying my two bags.

I am so unbelievably angry.

Thanks if you read all that, I don't really have anyone to rant to tonight!

Msb I am a far more experienced parent than you as I have been doing it longer and have more kids.

That does not make me a better parent but it does mean that you cannot use the argument that I have not yet had the experiences you have had and therefore don't know any better and will cringe with shame when I realise the error of my ways. I was there a long time before you..

I do try to avoid soft play areas, mainly because there too many lazy people like you in there who can't be arsed to parent their own children and spend their time reading hello and drinking skinny whatever, convinced of the fact that their kids are so well behaved that they don't need supervising and I can tell you that NO child is like that.

I agree that older children don't need watching like hawks but they need supervising none the less.

In your first post you were ever so pleased with your self when you said "I take mine to a soft play centre. Occassionally. I make it quite clear that they are not to look at me, come near me, ask me anything, speak to me, ask for anything. No eye contact with mummy or an hour ok??"
That is not taking your eyes off your kids for a few minutes is it now?

If you think I'm talking crap then perhaps you should look at how you presented yourself, just a thought. I can only go on what I read.

Perhaps you thought people would generally find it great that you tell your children not to bother you at all at soft play centres and that it is entirely up to the parents of smaller children to get them out of the way of your kids.

This is why we NEVER go to "soft play". Okay, DD may get some fun out of it, but to be honest, if I'm spending my whole time either worrying that she's within a meter of another child, or that the other parents are judging me, what is the point?
Much better to take her to the park, where she can run freely like a loon, climb, jump, be noisy and have fun.

My original post was meant humorously, although there is a grain of truth in it. I don't spend 7 euro to sit staring at my children. I need a break..

Obviously if my children had needed me I would have put down my newspaper. You were far too quick to judge me. That's your issue, not mine. You sound a nightmare tbh. Pompous, judgemental, abrasive and smug. You might benefit from a break yourself.

My children only very rarely see the inside of a softplay centre, and it's no wonder. You have reminded me why it is we don't go more often.

Ps, I need to go back and add 'egregious' to the list of adjectives.

"Msb I am a far more experienced parent than you as I have been doing it longer and have more kids."

Omg. Can't believe you actually said that. I've got more children than you have. I trump you.

Well bully for you you sad case.

Why don't you go to the one child family board and tell them that you're a more experienced better parent??

You can add if it takes away some of you obvious internal rage and makes you feel better, either way it makes absolutely no difference to me.

I said I was more experienced than you because if you can remember that far back, your line of attack was that I had a pfb and tiny children didn't have a clue, unlike you who had 2 kids of the grand ages of 3.5 and 7, just wanted to put you right. Otherwise it would never have crossed my mind.

let's see now shall we?

By MsB "Kittymum of pfb, take a fucking valium."

and "I bet you do the same too when the time comes (if your children are as well behaved and gentle as mine are). If you remember this in a few years I wonder if you'll have the humility to cringe."

You do sound like a really uptight and highly strung woman, perhaps the vallium would be a better choice for you.

Ha ha, I come out of this looking like the highly strung one? Do you think?

I made a flippant irreverant comment on a very longrunning thread, you pompously leapt down my throat in a nauseatingly misguided attempt to judge me.

When I hauled you up on your smug behaviour, you pull out your 'trump'. "I have more children than you have."

I suggest you drop this now. YOu have come across very badly. Not your finest hour I bet.

Oh FGS. Softplay should be outlawed. Tis evil. Reduces grown woman to this.

Banned, I tell you!

I'm fine thanks, I'm not the one who sits reading papers ignoring my kids, so I'm quite happy.
Everything I've written has been in response to your hysterical rantings.

btw is was Not a misguided attempt to judge you I DID judge you.

You judge me? Oh.my.God. You are hilarious.

"yeah, I pay people to look after my kids, do the cleaning, and housework and the garden SO THAT I have time to come on here"

Kittywise 26/1/09 at 11.34

I couldn't even begin to wade through your many, many posts; for a woman with six children your posts are prolific aren't they?, but interestingly, I did read that you smoked through all over your pregnancies.

Wow. I think it takes a lot more 'front' to admit to that than it takes to admit to leaving my well-behaved children to take care of themselves for a while. I wouldn't even judge you for smoking through your pregnancies, but you have a nerve honey. You should look at yourself before you start lecturing.

You set out to pick a fight with me, God knows why. My 'joke' was similar to the one you made yourself once. Except I 24 hours iin the day and I only have two children, and you have 6 omg. You must spread yourself quite thinly.

Move along, ladies. This is unseemly.

No I never smoked throughout all my pgs. What has other threads got to do with this one? Not good form MSb but then that's quite in keeping with your posting here tonight.

I think you jave got a massive chip on your shoulder and I think you feel very insecure.

So what if you kids sat through an hour of church, mine could do that no probs, so could many kids, what point does that prove?. Ah I see it means that they are very good so that means you don't have to parent them in sot play areas or something.

I see you haven't got the guts to make a public page about yourself, what are you hiding then?

Yep I can afford to have help with my 6 kids, great isn't it?? AND I take them to play areas AND I don't sit there taking no notice of them AND yes I judge you.

And of course I spread myself thinly, but over the years of parenting I have I have learnt to do this well

hey msb I am well flattered that you know so much about me actually, gosh posts going way back. Something has stuck with you hasn't it? I'm impressed I can't remember one thread from the next, sort of washes over me, but not with you obviously.

Do you have a thing about me or something?? Your knowledge is spooky. Ar you a cyber stalker?

Kittywise, it is not 'good form' to judge people and pick fights with them. In what way would you make me seem insecure. You seem like a thoroughly awful human being. You admit to judging me, even though on closer inspection you've done the same as me and worse.

You have been exposed as a hypocrite.

Maybe you are trying to give up smoking and that's why you're being such a bitch?

And you talk to me about having a chip? You started this sweetpea. I don't go 'round judging people.

The lesson you have hopefully learnt from all of this is to be a little bit less pompous and judgmental.

bcb, i have only just seen this thread. i hope your dc is ok? and not sustained any serious hurt?
fwiw, i didnt take my young children to soft play areas for precisely this reason.

MB I disagree with everything you have said. I am not your sweetpea.
I am not trying to give up.

I haven't been exposed as anything.

You are making things up.

HOWEVER, sorry for fighting.

You judged me.

I actually wasted time trawling through a twentieth of your posts to learn that you have made similar jokes to the one I made myself, you smoked during your pregnancies, you think occassionally a good slap is what works and that sometimes black people don't think gollywogs are offensive.

You are ahem interesting. Although contrary to what you seem to believe you never previously made an impression on me. Your name was not even familiar to me. Surprising given the number of posts.

Judging people is an unattractive trait. So I'll grant you is arguing on a public board, but you started the brawl.

Now, even though some of your posts are interesting this argument is becoming very boring.

I can only hope you have learned a small lesson here.

There is no lesson that I can see

The only thing I shouldn't have done was continue fighting.

As you've missed the lesson you should have learnt I'll spell it out. You shouldn't judge people. People in glass houses etc.

I shouldn't have continued/bothered to fight with you either, but at least I know I didn't start this ruck. I wonder if you know yourself why you started it.

Now. I suggest you just leave this and do not respond.