really worried about DD1 she says she prefers to be at school rather than home becasue of her younger sister....

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dd1 is 11 dd2 is 5... and she annoys the hell out of dd1....

I really cant cope with this on my own..

dd1 has asked if she can go and live with my mum

Does dd1 have her own room where she can shut herself away and have her own space?

What does dd2 do that's so irritating?

Has dd1 ever got on with dd2?

Can you give dd1 a place to call her own and then insist that dd2 is only allowed to 'bother' her when she is not in her place/room and at certain times

DD2 should be old enough not to deliberately torment her sister by now. I'd inforce some consistant punishment for deliberate upsets.

Also DD1 needs her own space somewhere. If she has not got a room of her own, think about a loft conversion or emptying a large cupboard and letting her have it as her reading corner where she can go and chill out with a magazine/book and some music. Make sure that DD2 knows she is not to bother her sister when she is in her own space.

do you spend 1-2-1 time with dd1??