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Wedding is going to mess up dd's food routine, what to do??

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lauraloola · 16/01/2009 22:00

Dd is being bridesmaid with me for my sisters wedding. Dd will be 10mo then.

The wedding is at 12pm and we will not be eating until 2pm. We will need to be leaving to get to the wedding at 11.30am.

I am thinking ahead as I really dont know what to do about meals etc. She currently has - Milk at 8am, lunch at 12pm, milk at 2pm, tea at 5pm, milk at 7pm with water in between.

With it being a few months away do you think I should adjust her routine now so that she eats lunch at 1pm that way we could probably fit it in between the wedding and moving to the reception.

Or, do you think its better to change her routine completly for one day? I dont want her going hungry though.

Any ideas??

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lauraloola · 16/01/2009 22:01

PS Wasnt really sure where this should go!

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seeker · 16/01/2009 22:03

Is this, perhaps, your first child? I don't mean to be unkind - but it really won't do her any hard to eat at different times. And she'll be a different person by then anyway - you'll be able to give her a sandwich if she's hungry!

gill89 · 16/01/2009 22:04

pfb?

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Lilyloo · 16/01/2009 22:04

I would give her a generous snack before you leave.
I wouldn't worry too much as it's only one day just take a small snack she could enjoy in the service maybe ??

CantSleepWontSleep · 16/01/2009 22:05

Very tactfully put seeker!

If it's a few months away, then surely she isn't even eating solids yet, and her routine could change wildly between now and then?

llareggub · 16/01/2009 22:06

Don't worry about it. She may well change herself between now and then. I'm sure you can just go with the flow on the day, there'll be people around who can help, I'm sure.

AnyFucker · 16/01/2009 22:06

relax, for goodness sake

you are not going to enjoy the day if you carry on like this

that is a very strict routine you have, what would it take to vary from it ????

LittleMissNorty · 16/01/2009 22:06

She'll be fine.....keep some snacks handy and a drink....

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lauraloola · 16/01/2009 22:06

How did you all guess she is my pfb

I am being far too organised and worrying too much! I am just worried that she will be screaming with hunger!

Good idea about snacks. I will change her routine for one day

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castille · 16/01/2009 22:07

Sorry.

Just have some crackers or biscuits or anything in your bag for when when she gets hungry.

How is she going to walk down the aisle at 10mo?

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lauraloola · 16/01/2009 22:08

You have all made me realise how bloody stupid I am!!

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AnyFucker · 16/01/2009 22:11

yes, stop worrying about something that may never happen

btw, she probably will scream/vomit/do massive smelly poo/grizzle

weddings and very small children don't mix tbh and if you have ny rose-tinted fantasies that she will be an angel then stop it now.....

just go with the flow and be prepared to spend most of the nuptials pacifying a tired, overstimulated, snotty ball of fury

LittleMissNorty · 16/01/2009 22:11

Don't worry about it...we've all been there (well I have).

AnyFucker · 16/01/2009 22:12

aww laura, not stupid, we have all been there

Flum · 16/01/2009 22:13

Ahhh bless ya, loving the detail on meal times and imagining a pewside picnic with mini table cloth, napkin and salt and pepper shakers. The vows to the sound of crunching hoola hoops!

Lilyloo · 16/01/2009 22:15

Aww Laura i thought how i could tactfully respond.
ds routine (my pfb) was my life , now on dc3 and she fits in with 'our life'!
Try and enjoy yourself on the day , dd won't go hungry i am sure!!
Raisins make very little mess i find!

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lauraloola · 16/01/2009 22:15

LOL Flum!!

I know that she is going to be a nightmare! Dp will be at the ready to take her out!

I am going to be laughing about my analness for a long time

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Novacane · 16/01/2009 22:19

or you could give a bottle of milk before you go in, or with you so you can give it during the wedding if needs be. DS and his cousin ran up and down the aisle for most of my Step Brothers wedding whilt the register was being signed etc. If kids are invited they can't expect a quiet one!

ProfYaffle · 16/01/2009 22:21

You need to embrace 'the snackbox', a platic tub full of breadsticks, raisens, oatcakes, babybel etc. Complete lifesaver in mealtime stress situations (aka mil house). Fecking millstone by the time they start school but that's another thread i think!

PavlovtheCat · 16/01/2009 22:29

I remember, when DD was young, this was the kind of thing I would have been really really stressed about, not necessarily routine of food as DD was quite erratic of her own nature, but, the kind of 'pfb' stressing.

I would have been horrified if I had received posts that appeated to miminise the stress I i might be feeling as a mother of a pfb. I think 'seeker' was kind in how she worded it. I did not need to be refered to, if at all in the first place. Again. Just some wise words from experienced mums would have sufficed.

I recall receiving lots of gentle, reassuring, but sensible advice, support and guidance and never was made to feel like I was over-reacting for being a first time mother.

Sorry for the rant, but really.

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lauraloola · 16/01/2009 22:32

Thanks Pavlov. I am being very PFB about this though!!

I guess its also because I want the whole day to be great for my sister. At my cousins wedding someones phone rang and then her lo screamed!

I think I will have a snack box that dp can look after. If she winges he can have her and take her out if need be.

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hatwoman · 16/01/2009 22:32

putting aside the pfb thing I think there is a kind of point here. often routines are not there because the parents think teh child will come to some sort of mortal harm if they deviate - but because the parent knows their life will be easier. there's every chance that dd will be fed up/freaked out/tired/over-excited/hungry and scream the chruch down - and there's nothing you can do now to try to prevent that but - assuming you yourself don;t want to leave the service you need someone close at hand, armed with snacks, toys, nappies, who will leap up and take her away, if needs be. once you know you;ve got that in place then you can relax and enjoy everything. I think it's lovely your sister wants you both there - but - esp is she doens;t have kids - warn her that a swift removal could happen. well done for taking the pfb stuff in good spirit

hatwoman · 16/01/2009 22:34

cross posted - you already have dp lined up for the job.

PavlovtheCat · 16/01/2009 22:37

laura - I do apologise for ranting there, as I was going to actually post in relation to your question!

I think, it has been covered. Is DD bottle or BF? if formula/express fed, might be a good idea to take extra bottles?

When I went to a funeral and took DD (my mother so she was not, not going to go), at age 6 months, I took bottles with me so if she became hungry I could feed her. As it happened she refused bottles most of the time, but I thought I would give i a try, and DH was prepared to peg it out if he had to.

IMO children make weddings, I am sure your sister will be fine with a bit of fussing. If it gets too much, get someone who knows DD to take her out for a moment so you don't miss it!

Have fun.