You're unfair and you love DS more than you love me

[Quattrocento]

This is my DD speaking. She is 10 and is and always has been insanely jealous of her younger brother.

I'm really worried about this because I feel it's poisoning what should be a lovely happy childhood.

She does get punished more than DS but this is because she is naughtier. Not because we love her any less. We adore both of them.

How do I get rid of this worm of jealousy?

The trouble is we are quite timestarved and the weekends are taken up with tennis and swimming and hockey and rugby. We do have a girl's day out but then DS objects and says he wants a mummy's day too and the whole cycle carries on ...

Grr