I have 4 year old twin boys. I made what I now know is a big mistake and potty trained them together. I think with hindsight that only twin 1 was ready. Twin 2 found it quite difficult and he also suffered very badly with constipation. He got the hang of wees quite well but we had major issues with poos.
About a year ago we discovered they have various allergies and since then, his constpation has gone. Over the months we have got him to poo on the toilet, he will go, he knows it doesn't hurt anymore etc.
BUT, the last coulple of months he has been wetting himself and the poo issue isn't completely sorted. He will still hold it in til he often has a little in his pants. Sometimes he will go of his own accord, some times I tell him he needs to go and he will. We have tried the 'sneaky poo' technique which worked for a while, as did charts etc. But he goes back to the same.
Same with wetting. He only does it at home and generally not when we have company. I am now at the point where I think it is that he can't be bothered to go. So what should I do? Yesterday he wet 3 times. He also had to be told when to go for a poo.
They were 4 at the weekend and we don't seem to be getting anywhere. He is a very stubborn child and smirks when he is wet, and lies about it. I think it's part laziness but also a control thing.
Help!! Everytime we think it's sorted, we end up back at square one.