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Anyone else starting potty training? Moral support needed!

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feedthegoat · 17/10/2008 21:50

Started potty training with serious intent today with DS who's 3 at end of month. I've been using potty with him for a while and find that he uses it fine if leave him naked but feels no need to bother otherwise. Have decided the only option is to go straight to pants and have started today. I sense a long road ahead and just wondered if anyone else out there who fancies sharing there experiences with me.

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ohdearwhatamess · 29/10/2008 21:56

I am finding this thread very reassuring. People in RL keep telling me how their children took to potty training from day 1 with barely any accidents.

Merlin · 29/10/2008 22:08

Can I join please? DS2 is 3 1/2 and just absolutely hates to sit on potty or toilet at home. Strangely he uses toilet at nursery and we have had a couple of wees there this week.

At home, he just holds it in!! How do I get him on the potty or toilet? I have tried everything - am wondering if I should give up and try again in a few weeks.

Merlin · 29/10/2008 22:15

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feedthegoat · 29/10/2008 22:21

It's so hard isn't it? I must admitt I felt it was going well to start with but not really progressing at all. Still doesn't tell me he needs a wee if got pants on. It's so frustrating because he does if naked. Not keen on sitting on potty either but only in a too busy kind of way. Don't know if it's right thing to do but if trying to get his attention I've been taking whatever he's playng with away and saying he can have it back if tries to sit on potty. Trying to reassure him he doesn't have to do anything , just try.

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Merlin · 29/10/2008 22:25

Hard is not the word!! I have decided that I am just going to ignore his requests for a nappy on when he starts dancing around desperate for a wee! He is a champion at holding it in but perhaps if he realises I'm not giving in eventually he will use the toilet/potty.

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feedthegoat · 29/10/2008 22:30

Hey, if he can hold it that well thats got to be a real advantage once you get over the stubborn streak

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ohdearwhatamess · 30/10/2008 16:02

I'm starting to get frustrated with this (and bored stiff staying at home all day). Ds1 just keeps wetting himself today and is not happy about going on the potty at all.

I'm wondering if he'll start to realise that being wet is unpleasant at some point.

Do other peoples' dcs sit happily on the potty?

Bubbaloo · 30/10/2008 17:36

Well,we ended up with 1 accident yesterday just before bed.
Today so far we've had 2 wees in his trousers but lots on the toilet.He's also had a trip to the dentist and had a friend round all afternoon.
It all seems to be going rather well and keep thinking it's going to change BUT I honestly don't think he seems to know when he wants to go,because I'm sure that if I didn't take him every hour,they'd be lots of accidents.With te 2 accidents he had today,he just carried on playing with his friend,even though he was wet.
To those of you that have done this before,is this quite normal and will it soon click into place?

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feedthegoat · 30/10/2008 23:07

Bubbaloo - I've got a couple of friends at work who have potty trained in last 18 months and they have told me its totally normal. They reckoned it took their dc's about 2 to 3 weeks for this stage to pass. I think my ds would have loads nore accidents if I didn't ask him to go every hour or two. My ds has got a cold and my new washer has to go back too so i have tbh and say i caved abit today (I've had enough!) and used pull ups as we were going on a full day outing.After yesterday i just couldn't face it and I knew he'd be reluctant when enjoying himself and leave it to last minute. But he's really suprised me. He came home in same pair of pull ups we left house in 10 hours earlier! I was suprised because felt guilty all morning that was going to confuse him again as had no sucess with them before i took him out of nappies.He even asked to use toilet whilst waiting for his pudding. I nearly fell off my chair in shock . He's so much better out (think he must like the novelty factor) so thats all the excuse i need not to stop in!

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ohdearwhatamess · 31/10/2008 09:01

You (and your dcs) are all doing so well. I get great hysterics from ds1 each time I try to get him to sit on the potty. Dh thinks I should persevere and make him sit there, even if I have to hold him in place, but I'm not so sure. I'm worried we'll have weeks of this and he'll end up with a huge complex about it all.

Bubbaloo · 31/10/2008 09:45

Feedthegoat-thanks,that's really reassuring to know it's quite common.
That's fab re the pudding-I'd also be amazed if ds did that.Also great that's he's good when you go out because at the moment the thought of leaving the house would feel me with dread.We have a birthday party to go to on Sunday so that should be interesting.It's only for 90 mins,so fingers crossed.
Ohdear-have you tried using the toilet instead,if he's not keen on the potty? Tbh,ds isn't using the potty as he much prefers the toilet which I think is more comfortable for him.

eviz · 31/10/2008 10:46

Hi, could I join please?

DD1 is 2.3 and we are on Day 3 - being in the house is killing me and I'm counting down the hours.

Also have DD2 (4 months) to keep me occupied!

Currently have DD1 sat on potty infront of ceebeebies, plying her with ribena and toast in the hope that things get moving and she makes the connection.. as only 1 successful wee in potty in 3 days!

Really want to go out tomorrow as have a busy day, but terrified of going out! Can't get my head around this at all.

eviz · 31/10/2008 10:55

Ohdearwhatamess - I have same prob as you - only way I can get DD to sit on potty is if infront of the TV, but if anything starts to 'happen' she screams and wants to be nowhere near. Isn't this the time where the psychological scarring sets in?

ohdearwhatamess · 31/10/2008 12:37

Perhaps I will try the toilet instead (but then he won't be able to watch cbeebies - seems to the only way to keep him on the potty). He did one poo in the potty this morning, but more coincidence than anything else I think.

eviz - it is hard with another little one to manage too, isn't it. I have 8 month old ds2, and I can guarantee that he'll fall over, be sick or doing something else just at the point where ds1 wees.

We're also supposed to be going out tomorrow, but don't have to (although I am going stir crazy stuck at home). Would it be disastrous to stick him back in nappies? I guess it can't set things back as we haven't got anywhere yet!

eviz · 31/10/2008 12:41

Ohdear - I'm planning on putting DD in trainer pants tomorrow, and take a lot of changes of clothes. DP will also be with me.

I'm taking heart from a previous post on this thread which suggested that once you've actually been out and dealt with an accident and realised it's not the end of the world, half the battle will be won!

I am not keen to go back to nappies - otherwise I feel that the last 3 housebound days will have been wasted. Trying to convince myself that the message is slowly going in, even if it hasn't clicked yet!

yankybrit · 31/10/2008 13:08

Is anyone else finding this potty training THE Most frustrating thing in the world? Ohdearwhata mess - I can so relate to what you've been saying. It's so good to know we're not alone. My issues are:

It's day five and my DS (2.3)has not yet done a poo in the loo or potty. He's v constipated and managed a bit in his nappy last night, but not a good situation! I'm worried the pot train trauma might be affecting him..
He's refusing to sit on the potty downstairs so each time something is coming I have to lug him upstairs (am 20 weeks preg!). Yesterdsay we were up and down about a thousand times, most times with no 'result'. It's driving me CRAZY, but am outwardly trying to be relaxed about it all.
Most of the time he has to start having an accident before he goes to the loo. Despite him jigging around like an irish dancer which is an obvious sign something's coming. He always ignores my gentle reminders to try and go. Is this a stubborn/control thing? Sometimes even when he is weeing in the loo he wants to get off! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
I don't think he's once told me in time to get to the loo. He literally has to be doing it before he realises/admits defeat.

Is anyones DD or DS actually taking initiative and going to the loo during first week of training or are you still reminding them?

Only positive is he does seem to be holding the wee in for longer periods but we still have almighty accidents when it comes.

I really feel like giving up.and wonder if he's too young. Can anyone relate to this?! I just try to think of each day as 'day one' so I don't get too discouraged.

yankybrit · 31/10/2008 13:16

For those scared of going out - it is a bit scary! It's a big mountain to climb but I felt like this the first time I was out breastfeeding or weaning etc. We'll get there eventually!! I've had to go out a few times or else would have a breakdown staying at home. I've taken potty, wipes, a cloth for accidents, tissues, 3 pairs of pants, 2 pairs of trousers... I think as long as you have spare clothes that's all you can do! And try to be relaxed if and when accidents happen. I also have a mat for carseat/pushchair.

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feedthegoat · 31/10/2008 15:06

Totally agree with your last post yankybrit. There is nothing our dc's need that we can't take with us to go out and if they have an accident it's no big deal - everyone who's ever had kids must have seen it all before. I don't think we're expected to have inner serenity as long as dc's think we have . Well its 2 weeks for us today and ds has asked for potty twice this morning so hoping he's getting it more now.

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ohdearwhatamess · 31/10/2008 19:30

A bit more success this afternoon (just at the point where I was going to say 'sod it' and give up). He held everything in for about 4 hours and then did a wee on the potty. I made a huge fuss and he was really proud of himself!

Anneinthegreen · 31/10/2008 20:32

Yankybrit - it is SO reassuring to hear your tales! My DS is 2.6. We started potty training on Monday and he is proving to be a master of holding on! I think he knows he needs to go but doesn't seem to want to 'let go' when on the potty or toilet. He will hold himself and jiggle about on and off for ages. During this time he may sit on the potty, but then stands up and puts his pants back on when (I suspect) he starts to feel that something might be coming. If we catch him starting to leak and put him on the potty, he is then quite happy to sit and watch, and then is very proud of his achievement!

Anyone out there got a trick to get past the holding on stage???

yankybrit · 31/10/2008 22:04

Oh my gosh we got through this afternoon with NO accidents and 2 wees in the loo! We were at a party and I think DS was encouraged seing his little friend on the pot. Was SOOO proud of him. I'm letting DH take the reins tomorrow while I escape for a good few hours.

firststeps · 31/10/2008 22:28

hi feedthegoat, glad it's going well for you. I still have ds in pull ups but getting him used to the potty, he will sit quite happily and we have had lots of wees, building up to trying nappy free again next weekend. I do feel like he's capable now though which might be half the battle.

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feedthegoat · 31/10/2008 23:09

Hi firststeps, sounds promising that he's happy to use potty and been getting plenty of practice in! We only had one small accident today and he managed to stop and do rest in potty when he remembered. The first week was truly awful and i thought he'd never get it and although we've a long way to go I can see so much improvement. I suppose it's alot to expect of them after 2 or 3 years of not having to think about it but blimey it takes some doing for parents too! Good luck with the nappy free weekend

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Bubbaloo · 01/11/2008 08:30

We had a couple of wee accidents yesterday and 3 changes of clothes.He's doing really well but soooo frustrating as the last 2 accidents were within 10 minutes of each other and I had changed him into fresh clothes.One's which had just come out of the tumble drier,a few minutes before.
Have a bouncy castle party tomorrow to go to which I think I may stick him in a pull up for.Not nice for the other kids if he has an accident.I think we're still making progress though,especially as now he realises he doesn't like having wet trousers and pants.

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feedthegoat · 01/11/2008 18:22

We've had no accidents today at all and more importantly he's asked to use potty 3 times. A real breakthrough. I'm crossing my fingers now that its not just a lucky day

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