older mums 38-45+

[debzmb62]

i,m an older mum once i was a younger mum lol i have 5 kids agaes from 27 to 3 are there many older mums about on here from maybe devon cornwall !

[Kewcumber]

is being 46 in Ireland differnt to being 46 anywhere else then KerryMum? Like 46 in dog years?

[Wendels]

sorry I'm late....I'm 46 with 2 year old and...would like another one. Did somebody say they are from wilts? I'm near salisbury

[mufti]

wendels i am in devizes. i too am 46 with a 2 year old , ds.
is yours a dd or ds?

[Wendels]

hi, i've got a dd. is ds your first?

[mufti]

yes , and bossy , just being ordered to sit, i dont think he means at the pc either.

[debzmb62]

this thread is great makes me feel !!! well not so alone !!

[Wendels]

have you got the 'terrible twos'? we do!!

[Wendels]

Hi Debz, this is a great thread, I feel like mum and not an alien

[Wendels]

mufti have you got the 'terrible 2's' with your ds?

[Jux]

I was 50 this year. DD is 9.
I'm in Devon debzmb62 (don't look at my profile - it's got a horrible pic of dd's festering big toe!)

[debzmb62]

lol well you know i,,d look yuk lol
were you to in devon!

[mufti]

wendels , he is a lovely, happy natured boy, and i wasnt sure i believed in the terrible 2's , but he is certainly getting more challenging at times
likes the word "no", if its a nappy change for example , which never used to bother him

[Wendels]

mufti - yes i know exactly how you feel, dd doesn't like nappy change time either. have you started potty training yet?

[mufti]

no, he is only 2.2 , and we do have one in the bathroom ready which he sits on occasionally. but thats it so far, i am putting it off a bit tbh. am not sure hes ready, although he sometimes tells me when hes been , in the nappy, which is good.
dont really know when or how to start properly

[Wendels]

same with me, I will leave dd in nappies as long as possible. shes 3 in march so will probably start then. i conveted to terries recently which is saving me loads of money. what nappies do you use?

[debzmb62]

hi mufti a bit of advise your doing ok !! he will do it when he,s ready i,ve had 5 of them go through this never forced them just got a potty out and engurage them ! its a good sign as he .s telling when he,s done one already i know it sound sad lol but when he does go on the potty first times clap and cheer and praise him its normall 2.5 3+ but mainly when he,s ready

[mufti]

thanks for that debz

i now use just pampers, but did used to use a mix of disposables / washables, eg more disposables when out or away. but when he out grew the next size of covers i decided not to replace them, as quite expensive at £9 each

[Acinonyx]

Arabicabean - do you see your childfree friends with or without your dc? This seems to be the key to maintaining some of my friendships and I just don't have the time and resources to socialise very much without dd. The friends I'm thinking of are out of town, so in the past we would have gone over at/for the weekend

Prior to dd I really never spent time with parents and kids so I'm not resentful - just think it's a shame since at my age some of these friendships are older than many mnetters. Even the ones I still see - it's not really the same. We can't hang out like we used - I can't do the things (the long liquid meals etc) that we used to enjoy.

And you make so many new friends when you have a dc. There is only so much time and energy to go around. With dd, I really rely on my local friends so much more that it's harder and harder to keep up the older out of town friendships. If you both have dc, it's easier to organise a day or weekend together - and a lot more relaxing.

[Wendels]

do you think you will have any more dc's mufti?

[Acinonyx]

Mufti - I'm same age but dd is 3. The terrible 2's seemed to hit suddenly at about 2.5 (just before Xmas

It comes and goes. Just when I think peace has been restored, all hell breaks loose again. dd will announce 'sometimes I be bossy'. Yes, we know....

[arabicabean]

Acinonyx - Oh I get friends to visit, so much easier and relaxing for me. It is just too much hassle to travel with the baby.

You're right things do change when you have a baby. I used to enjoy spending the day having lunch and shopping with friends. I loved going to the theatre and galleries with my husband, but for the timebeing it just isn't possible. Eh, the responsibilities of parenthood. And to be honest, I don't really care! It's only for a short period of time and the trade-off more than compensates for it (just hope that the brain does not turn to mush completely).

I was never good with friends who had children. It was too stressful for all when they visited as my home is fairly child unfriendly. As for making new friends with children, well I have that to look forward to I hope. I must join a mothers and babies' group. My very sparse free time at the moment is spent trying to lose weight and regain some fitness after the pregnancy. That's one advantage a pregnancy in youth has to offer - things just ping back into shape.

[Acinonyx]

I showed such total disinterest in my friends' dc before my own PFB arrived I'm surprised any of them still speak to me.

I think my dc is older than yours - she's 3 and I'm starting to feel the need to get out and about a bit. Not a lot. Just a bit.

I had the good fortune to fall in with a couple of groups of mums before I realised how much I would depend on the company - just from nct and another class. Never took to toddler groups though - perhaps too big.

I lost a stone fairly easily but there's another 8-10 lbs that I just can't seem to shift. Just can't make the final push. (I'm a small frame so the extra 8-10 lbs does not sit well.)

Time: there just aren't enough hours or days. That is the hardest adjustent - the way time races by full of work, chores and childcare - and so little else.

[annoyingdevil]

I'm 41 with a 2 and a 3 year old. Moved from London to Berkshire 2 years ago

[debzmb62]

HELP why am i so stupid its my 8 years old birthday today got loads of lids coming all nephews and neices and some freinds omg what have i done lol