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older mums 38-45+

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debzmb62 · 02/09/2008 12:00

i,m an older mum once i was a younger mum lol i have 5 kids agaes from 27 to 3 are there many older mums about on here from maybe devon cornwall !

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Missy8c · 04/08/2009 11:56

Yes ClaudiaSchiffer, I say go for it too. I have a 8 week old and am thinking that would like another. I dont think that being in your late fifties or sixties will be a negative in terms of dealing with trying teenage behaviour. If anything we might deal with it better than a younger parent because we will be more mellowed but also less likely to put up with too much crap!! lol

alypaly · 03/08/2009 09:49

go for it girl..have another or let me adopt please..

ClaudiaSchiffer · 03/08/2009 00:34

Hi there, I'm 41 with a 4yr old and a nearly 2 yr old. I would love to have another but wonder if I'm too old, but reading this thread makes me think it's possible!

The thing that worries me isn't coping with the baby thing (I adore babies) but the grumpy teenager thing when I am (eeek) 60!

Does anyone else have similar worries or should I just get over myself? The thing is that I was a pretty um . . . vile trying teenage for my parents and they were in their 40's.

alypaly · 02/08/2009 23:56

mind you i still want to do lots of things but i want to do it with my kids now and share some of the experiences,good and bad that i have already had.
Learnt to scuba dive with my 14 year old 2 years ago...that was incredible fun and we ski together.....life is just wonderful when i am with them but we also enjoy our times apart.....

alypaly · 02/08/2009 23:53

sometimes its nice being an older mum as i tgink you can be more settled in that you have done all the night club things and alot of travelling and somehow having children just makes everything feel so complete. I had two boys but I would really have loved to have had a girl to do girly things with.

theoptimist · 01/08/2009 23:35

I'm 40.7 and have a 3 month old. I also have a 6 year old DD and 8 year old DS. No plans for more tho.
It's lovely having this chance one last time. I'd always said I'd keep my options open for a 3rd baby, when I was closer to 40.
I don't mind being older when she was born, as she's got her older siblings to look after her too, and they do - they think the world of her.

KiwiKat · 01/08/2009 10:39

That's interesting - I'm going to ring my mum to find out when hers stopped.

Notice how you talk about all sorts of very intimate things with lots of different people once you become a mum? Poos and periods are now so commonplace in my conversations compared to pre-dc!

alypaly · 31/07/2009 23:40

kittywise
Thats a real shame,wish i ahd had mine when i was younger.I was 33 and 38 when i had mine but had a few probs in between. even tho i have now split up from my ex i have tried for the last 12 years but nothing happened even tho I was having periods...now i cant wait for grandchildren, but i think thats a long way off. Too old to adopt aswell..but if i cud ,i wud

kittywise · 31/07/2009 17:38

Thanks for that alypaly. I think my mum was 50 so hope for yet. I'm afraid that 'going for it' isn't an option at the moment. Dp flat refuses until our finances get better and I've no idea when that will be

alypaly · 31/07/2009 14:43

kittywise

normally your periods stop around the same time as your mums did. I stopped at 46 and was still trying for more babies, but you get less fertile and receptive to fertilised eggs. If you want more, go for it now. Its too late once the periods stop. And the longing never goes away...believe me.

I would still love lots more now and i am now classed as geriatric as far as gynocologists are concerned.

kittywise · 31/07/2009 14:25

I'm old 41, 6 kids 10-2 years. Would love another but we've no money. I wonder how long I've got until I should stop hoping?

Jux · 31/07/2009 14:23

A distant aunt of mine attended her eldest child's wedding - he was 23 - and then gave birth to her youngest a week later!

I'm 51 with a 10yo only-child dd. Do I count? I was 41 when she was born - that made me old at the time, honest!

KiwiKat · 31/07/2009 13:59

I can't imagine life without my 3 year old. He's full of beans.

alypaly · 30/07/2009 19:07

I am 53 and i am dead sporty and i wud love the chance to have had a football team. I just love having children around the house and i love looking at life thro their niave, innocent little eyes.
They are little treasures

elvislives · 30/07/2009 19:00

We also have 3 boys between DD1 and DD2 (17 19 and 21 ). It is funny when people ask if she's our only and we say no, she's our fifth. They go

DH would like another but I'm 46 now so I think we are pushing it!

Missy8c · 30/07/2009 08:28

Wow Elvislives, that's cool. I do get some strange reactions when people ask me if my LO is my first and I then go on to tell them that she is my 2nd and my first is 20. I really enjoyed having an only child with my eldest and because of the gap it's like having another only child....for now ;)
Are you hoping to have any more?
Whereabouts in Essex are you from FranSanDisco? I'm in Romford!

FranSanDisco · 26/07/2009 10:38

I'm 43 from Essex.

elvislives · 26/07/2009 10:34

No Missy you don't have the biggest gap. My DD1 turned 21 a month before DD2 was born

KiwiKat · 26/07/2009 10:32

I'm 43 with a 3 year old ds, and hoping to have another one. Gateau, how are you getting on with that?

Missy8c · 26/07/2009 10:21

Thought I wold try to resurrect this thread. I am 41 and have a baby girl of 7 weeks. My older daughter is 20!!
Do I have the biggest age gap between kids?? I have to say that most people mistake myself and eldest daughter for sisters....or at least that's what I like to think!! lol
I love being a mum all over again. New partner, 8 years my junior with no previous kids. I have said that this will be the only one but I am so in love with my LO that I have started thinking that one more could be an option, and seeing how many cool older mums are around having babies well into their 40s is really encouraging me!!

merlin · 31/01/2009 20:22

I am 46 have a nearly 4 year old and an 8 year old.

I drink wine

Bricks · 31/01/2009 20:19

I am 40 year old with 3 year old boy buy my olfder sister has just outdone me she is 45 - 46 next month she has a 25 year old son and a 10 month old daugther

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noma · 18/12/2008 19:40

Im 46 with a 4 year old and a 6 year old and im shattered by 7pm especially with the school runs as one is still at nursery 5 half days .

extremelychocolateymilkroll · 17/12/2008 22:48

Sian Williams - presents Breakfast on BBC with Bill Turnbull - is 44 and pregnant with 4th child. Always good to hear of a mature woman falling pregnant.

debzmb62 · 17/12/2008 10:54

poetmum i agree ! i was married for 18 years it broke my heart still does it would of been our 28th wedding ann last august he,s been gone 10yrs now i still miss him zillions but i felt emty and my darling boyfriend is so good for me its alway nice to be held !!

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