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I know I really shouldn't be doing this...

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 10:12

There is a girl at DS's school (he's 9 and she's 11) who continuously sends him messages on msn calling him names...gay...thick...nerd etc etc...

He just popped downstairs and she came on saying she was pissing herself laughing at him so I kind of got drawn into conversation with her as DS . I didn't abuse her in anyway, I just said "are you bored?" and she said "no, actually, yes by you!" so I said "why do you message me all the time then? you don't have to..." and she got all defensive and said she likes better music than him and she isn't a chav etc etc so I just put "ok" so she wrote "So don't try abusing me!" so I replied "I won't" etc...

She's gone all quiet now, she's probably under the impression that DS has suddenly aged about 10 years

Was I really wrong to butt in on DS's conversation like this? I'm just so sick of people being mean to him.

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Tommy · 04/08/2008 10:14

why does he have her on his address book?

I don't blame you for what you did but maybe you need to talk to your DS about his being more assertive

TrinityRhino · 04/08/2008 10:14

why does a nine year old have msn??

she would have had to be added by him for her to message him

I think you did the right thing but I wouldn't have allowed him to have an msn account to begin with

Flier · 04/08/2008 10:15

good for you. maybe she'll go away and leave him alone. Poor DS

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lazaroulovesleggings · 04/08/2008 10:16

How about putting something like 'leave me alone or I'll gut you like a fish'?

Too strong?

VinegarTits · 04/08/2008 10:16

I don't blame you, i would have done the same

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 10:17

All of his friends have msn.

She actually uses her brother's account who is in DS's class (that's why it's on his address book).

I've just shown it to him and he laughed so he's not upset by it. I tried to explain that the way to deal with people like this is to make out that they have a problem, not you (for instance, asking if she's bored etc) he agreed but I don't think it will make much difference

I don't suppose I can expect a 9 year old to argue like a 28 year old lol

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 10:18

pmsl at "gut you like a fish". I don't think I should go that far

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TrinityRhino · 04/08/2008 10:19

all his friends have msn....and?

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 10:20

To be honest that really isnt the issue. I allow him on msn so he can talk to his friends, that doesn't give anyone the right to send abuse to him.

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lazaroulovesleggings · 04/08/2008 10:25

She probably fancies him

PinkChick · 04/08/2008 10:26

id have put "its obvious you fancy me, you constantly pster me and the more you call me and try to wind me up, the more i realsie you LOVE me..doncha!"

tigermoth · 04/08/2008 10:34

I'd get your ds away from MSN for a few days - or weeks if poss.

His friend sounds like she's seeking attention, so needs to be starved of it. No matter how jokey it is, it can't be good for your ds to regularly read these nasty things about him.

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 11:10

I reckon she fancies him too :D She just told him to "go away and never contact her again" so he wrote "ok". So she was all "thank god for that".

A few minutes later she sent him a nudge lol

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lazaroulovesleggings · 04/08/2008 11:16

Huh, Women, hey

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 11:18

I just wrote "i think its funny that you dont like me but keep talking to me"

so she wrote "its because i hate you you thicko!" and then she went offline. I think I'm enjoying this too much I should really grow up

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Mamazon · 04/08/2008 11:21

next time get him to say " i think you lurrrrve me. you want to marrrrrrry me"

she will get so irrate she will delete him.

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 11:23

pmsl I suggested that to DS and he said "No way! I'm not saying that!" lol

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VinegarTits · 04/08/2008 11:27

Hmmm probably best to ignore her i think, the more you reply the more you are encouraging her

Tortington · 04/08/2008 11:30

hwo serious do ou consider the abuse?

if you consider it serious enough, then you can contact ht police -the girl is 11 years old and legally culpable - thismight make her think if a couple of coppers cam a knocking.

if you think its simple childsplay - then you can go into options on MSN and save all messages.

i think it wize to do ths any way.

remember - the girl is old enough to be cautioned!

mamadiva · 04/08/2008 11:45

I would just block her TBH if he goes to his contact list and block and delete contact then she can't keep it up.

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 12:44

I don't really consider it that serious to be honest...I have read through the log and there are times when she's said stuff like

"I'm going to get (her brother) to kick you in at school"

DS has replied with "oh right"

and she's replied "lol just kidding x" etc

He's gone out in the back garden to play and whilst checking my ebay she sent a message saying "are you away baby?" so either she's being sarcy, calling him a baby as in "boo hoo baby" or its as we expected and she likes him more than she lets on.

Either way I'm going to leave them to it, after checking the history DS hasn't been all that innocent either telling her to check her grammar before speaking to him etc

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lazaroulovesleggings · 04/08/2008 12:46

She sounds insane

send her a message that just reads 'cuckoo'

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MrsSnape · 04/08/2008 12:47

pmsl!

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hughjarssss · 04/08/2008 12:55

She's bully.

You need to block her.