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Do any posh people give dummies?

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ButterflyMcQueen · 01/08/2008 20:33

I am desperate to give ds a dummy -but am resisting for the same reason i breast feed for ages....

social stigma

dp says there is none attached to dummies but i disagree and feel i will be chastised by the chattering classes if I succumb, thoughts please

be gentle - i am very post natal with a two week old!

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expatinscotland · 01/08/2008 20:57

the dd's loved their dummies.

but only when going down for the night.

OrmIrian · 01/08/2008 20:58

Oh, I see. That seems an odd answer. Mine just used a nipple for that purpose

onepieceoflollipop · 01/08/2008 20:58

Did they have them at naptimes too, expat?

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expatinscotland · 01/08/2008 20:59

nooo, only at night.

grrr.

dd1 would make this little O with her mouth.

i didn't understand it.

my mother came through and said, 'maybe she wants a dummy.'

in her infinite wisdom, she had brought some with her, in different teats, and the second she popped the cherry teat one in, dd1 suckied away happily and began to close her eyes.

StealthPolarBear · 01/08/2008 21:01

You breastfeed because you're worried about what other people think?

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ButterflyMcQueen · 01/08/2008 21:02

sadly yes to a degree stealth
I have spoken about this many times on here - i do breastfeed usually 10 months a year but no i dont enjoy it and although i knowit is best for my baby I dont believe formula to be all bad

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brimfull · 01/08/2008 21:03

of course they don't the nanny/maternity nurse does it for them

onepieceoflollipop · 01/08/2008 21:04

My mother is also a big fan of dummies, I remember having mine until I was practically school age. I was desperate for dd1 not to have a dummy, and she sucked her fingers instead (still does).

Actually tbh in some ways it is a relief that she (my mother) is so pro-dummy. I know for definite there will be no pressure from her to try and wean dd2 off her dummy.

p.s. you could describe my mother in a lot of ways, but posh probably wouldn't be top of the list.

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ButterflyMcQueen · 01/08/2008 21:04

gawd i would LURVE a wetnurse!!

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onepieceoflollipop · 01/08/2008 21:06

Butterfly I b/f almost constantly (esp with dd2) but it still wasn't enough, she is/was a really "sucky" baby - in the end we had to resort to the dummy. (either that or have her permanently attached to me)

StealthPolarBear · 01/08/2008 21:06

Sorry I haven't seen your previous posts which is why I thought at your OP, but I did recognise the name.
TBH when you describe it like that it doesn't sound like that's the only reason.

AuntyJ · 01/08/2008 21:07

My DH calls me his little bit of posh. I used a dummy for DS never liked them but it helped his colic.
Butterfly by the way with you on the breastfeeding. Hated bf but continued for both dc as I knew it was the best for them.

WilfSell · 01/08/2008 21:08

I'm not posh but I definitely chatter

Both my eldest two had dummies and DS3 did for a bit until it started interfering with the BF.

I don't think there is much social stigma any more. Babies have sucked on things that weren't only breasts for comfort for, er, ever...

TakeMeHome · 01/08/2008 23:12

I'm so posh I wouldn't even push - and I gave my ds a dummy.

I tried ramming one in my dd's mouth when she was born, but she is even posher and kept spitting it out.

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ButterflyMcQueen · 01/08/2008 23:30

AuntyJ good to know iam not alone!

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cadelaide · 01/08/2008 23:35

Really posh people don't give a toss what people think

ScottishMummy · 01/08/2008 23:50

is that so? one must confer with nanny

hatrick · 02/08/2008 00:07

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kiskidee · 02/08/2008 00:09

The grandchildren of the King and Queen of Spain have dummies.

MrsJohnCusack · 02/08/2008 01:53

truly posh people have Norland nannies or similar and so wash their hands of all these problems (and only see their children in the morning and before bed )

anyway
if it helps, do it, who cares. I hate the look of dummies but was desperately trying to get colicky DD to take one (of course she wouldn't have anything to do with it, the toerag)

MuffinMclay · 02/08/2008 13:45

Not sure if I'm posh or not. Maybe slightly...

I reluctantly gave one to ds1 and it was a life saver. It helped him to get to settle to sleep on his own instead of fussing and fretting. I was very about using one and wouldn't have ever let him have one in public or if my parents or MIL were around.

With ds2 I don't give a toss what anyone thinks, and have let him have one. He was starting to suck his thumb (as I used to, with awful teeth to show for it). Far easier to wean him off a dummy than a thumb, imo.

Current advice is that you should use a dummy until 6 months, I believe, because of a reduced risk of cot death.

lulumama · 02/08/2008 13:49

i was snobby about dummies until i had a child who wanted to suck aaaaaaaallllll the time. if you have a sucky baby, they are a godsend..

thelittlestbadger · 02/08/2008 13:50

If you're really worried about it, only give dummies to sleep then only you, your DH and DC need know. Otherwise make a big thing about referring them to the SIDS website.

lulumama · 02/08/2008 13:50

and it goes without saying I am vaar, vaar posh...

Egg · 02/08/2008 13:53

DS1 had a dummy for about a month. I only stopped as he became addicted to it and woke up 15 times a night wanting it before he could fall asleep again. Have not dared let DTs have one. I am not really posh but my parents are frightfully posh . My ante natal group were all pretty posh and a couple gave dummies.

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