Am I right to be cross or am I an overprotective control freak?

[mankymummy]

exP had DS (nearly 3) for the first time ever overnight on his own, away from my house and away from me, at his girlfriends house last weekend.

before i agreed to it, exP told me he had known her for years through mutual friends (that i trust) and had been seeing her for a few months.

he also agreed that this was to be a regular thing so that DS would have some routine stability.

i have now found out that he met this lady only a couple of weeks before he had DS. He met her on holiday and has not even discussed with her the possibility of having DS there again let alone every month.

I am cross about the fact he lied and also that DS may now not be able to go and stay every time he sees daddy, which is what I have told him.

Am I in the right to be mad?

i think it would be easier to specify particular access agreements as your xp lives abroad?
i'm all for being a control freak - the legals will obv tell you how much of one you are allowed to be in this instance - def time to get it sorted though! good luck!

thanks everyone for your advice... i think i will repost in another topic also.