How often do you tell your children that you love them - and what is their response??

[Jazzicatz]

Just told ds1 (age5) and he said "you are always saying that mummy - I know!!!"

all the time

yesterday when shopping

dd2: Mummy?
me: what?
dd2: I love you
me:

woman passing by went ahhhhhhhhhhhh

i tell mine at least once a day, normally at bed time. Both say it back, though the youngest is more, i lub too.

Just told me five year old "I know that, har har har, you told me a thousand times!"

So I told my 2 year old "NO. No, no lub. NO."

About fifty times a day. I say "How much do I love you?" and ds says "The Best in the whole wide world.".

He also told me I was a "good looking girl" on the way to school this morning . Made my year.

I tell them lots.

Sometimes they say "and I love you mummy"

sometimes they say "well I don't love you [sulk]"

sometimes they say "I love daddy"

sometimes they just completely ignore me.

Tis best when ds gives me a kiss and says "mummy.... I love you" without being prompted

That is such a sad post, foofi

Why would you not say it back when it is clearly something she needs to hear?
How cruel

It was the last thing that dh ever said to the kids before he died

lots

every day I ask them both what was the best bit of their day

dd2 always replies: Seeing You Mummy!

mb that's lovely

It is sad if you are unable to say it back but I can understand that some people are just uncomfortable with this.

When you read Foofi's post, she doesn't seem to think that it's a problem, that's the really sad bit.

Several times in the morning and several times in the evening.. one of us will say "I love you" and the other will say "I love you too"

with dd3 (3) she has always told me hundreds of times a day and everyone in the family tells her we all love her tons all the time..

with dd1 and dd2.every time I end a phone call with them if they are out somewhere...everytime they go to bed...every time they leave the house...every time I THINK THEY NEED TO HEAR IT..[SMILE]

MB. But thank God he managed to. How are the children doing? How are you?

THey are OK. Clearing out junk today, going to scotland tomorrow.

The saterday night/sunday morning before he died (he died early in the morning of the monday) I was sitting up with him, and he grabbed at my belt and pulled me towards him and hugged and kissed me.

He was such a good man.

Tell your kids you love them every day. At the risk of being maudlin, you never know when it will be the last time

I say it the WHOLE time to our kids! I don't think you can say it too much. Don't think my parents have EVER said it to me, so am making up for it to my kids.

Ds1 (7) will either be soppy and say 'I love you too mum, SO much' or mock-tragic and say 'you've never said that before, that's the first time you've ever said you loved me....' He is destined for the stage I think.

Dd (4) says 'love you too mum'

Ds2 (2) just says 'Voo' and snuggles his head in. So cute.

Oh MB - that is a very bittersweet thing, but that is such a lovely thing for your kids. I hope you have a good time in Scotland. x

oh MB you have just bought a tear to my eye... I hope you have a relaxing time too. I have just shouted at my 5 year old that i love her and she replied like kevin and perry 'i love you tooooo' - i think she is tiring of hearing it all the time! I say it oodles and dont remmeber hearing it that much when i was younger too so go overboard - i will get it in now all the time before they are full of attitude and embarrased by me at the school gates

Ah MB. That is my biggest fear i think that I will lose one of them and won't get a chance to say the things I want to first and make things right . Sent DS#1 into school more or less in tears this morning because he insisted he was ill and I insisted he wasn't.

So glad your DH managed to say what he wanted to.

EVERY DAY AS I THINK IT IS GREAT TO BE OPEN WITH YOUR FEELINGS.

OH MB!

The biggest fear in my life is that I have to leave my kids, and they dont realise how much I love them. I tell them every day because you just dont know what is round the corner and your post really brought tears to my eyes. God it must be so, so hard for you and my heart goes out to you it really does. Im mostly on my own with 3 kids but dad is about for them(occasionally) but they all love him and I cant imagine how you have had to cope.

I tell my kids I love them because I cant remember my parents saying it, although they show it in a lot of other ways it was never really said as I was growing up, I dont ever want my kids to feel embarrassed about saying I love you to anyone, and looking at 11 yr old it seems to be working(yeah i know he will be saying I HATE YOU IN 2 YEARS TIME).I think it is important for them to hear it, yeah it might sound boring after 12 years but better hearing it too often than not at all!!

All the time, every day, lots! Although she's only 13mo so doesn't really get it. Sometimes she kisses me, othertimes she headbutts me. I think it's important. I was always told 'I love you' to which I would ask 'how much?' and my parents (esp my dad!) would reply 'as big as space!' (because space is never ending.....) I'll do exactly the same with dd.

I think there can be so much security for any person to hear 'I love you' and know that it's meant.