Would you let him go?

[flashingnose]

I know there's been a very similar thread to this (and I've looked coddy, I just can't find it ) so apologies in advance.

Last night, after being warned that he would miss the end of a programme because he needed a bath, ds totally lost it when I switched the TV off (he's 6). Lots of pushing, shouting, total disobedience. He was warned that if he carried on, he wouldn't be allowed to go to Beavers tonight. Sure enough, he carried on and so was told that he wouldn't be going.

Of course, this morning he's very sorry and is desperate to go. I knew this would happen and DH and I discussed it last night and our inclination is to stand firm.

Would you?

I'd stand firm too. If it's any consolation ds had a massive strop this am and lost his yu gi oh or however you spell it cards AND a fairy cake from his lunch. We won't be backing down on the cards and he won't get them back until Sunday. He will be vile after school because of it but I don't care, we made the threat, we have to carry it out.

I'll need to give that a try MarsLady.

In my defense though, I never ever back down from the original punishment. And I do agree, I really only have to threaten these days and they do take me very seriously!

Right lots of standing firm in the FN and WWW houses tonight (we can send each other "do not waver" vibes)

Trying to decide which is a better stern face

or

pooo r beaver boy
maybe he was really tired?
aaaaah

sorry, you can send each other

aaaah porr boy
[grin fn]

Cod - stop it now, or you won't be going to your PTA meeting.
I mean it!

( vicky pollard style shrug) ohh well thast a loss!

lol

I think is a better stern face.

And any more of that attitude and you're barred from logging on to Mn for a day!

I would deffo not give treats if DS was being punished for something else

I am a cruel strict mum though

My sister always gives in to my nephews and they know it and just laugh at her

No means No in our house

an interesting point about truancy mum

northstar on Friday, 4 February, 2005 10:09:20 AM

On tv last night -
One of the comments by the daughter of the first woman sent to prison for daughters truancy, when asked did her mother not try to make her go to school was "yeah but she never means what she says"

yes think you hasve to be stern
aaaaah though

What is he like normally? Was it a one off? I would let him go. But a strict talk given.

I only give out threats that I know I'll have no worries carrying through - toy removal being the most effective. dd1 is usually pretty good on the whole so I tend to make allowances for the odd tired strop.

I can see where soapbox is coming from though. Sometimes it is easier to crack and let them do whatever it is, watching them strop around the house is more of a punishment for me . The stropping, door slamming, 'I hate you' gurning faces, all just get soooooooooo much worse when they get older. DSs are 12.5 & 11 and are becoming masters at it.....

my ds tonight

ahhhhhhhh

My DS does that too with his big chocolate brown eyes

but please be firm otherwise you will have lots of repeats

IMHO

god I love antonio banderas sven as a cat

fn read this sad tale

still shuddering formt he cat pic

Alas, DS1 has grown out of the 'big eyes' for sympathy stage. He is firmly into the 'frown and exude hatred of parent/s from every pore, so that they are left in no doubt that they have ruined your life forever' stage. Aren't teenagers lovely

LOL flashingnose - yep that's the look that gets me every time!

Mixed in with the odd crumple every now and then with a stray tear or two dribbling down the face

( whispers fn cant he do a penance intead?
self flaggelation?

you need to get yourselves blue eyed children instead - its virtually impossible to do "big chocolate brown pleading eyes" - my kids just look steely and calculating which makes carrying out threats a pleasure

lol jampot