Got friends 7 year old DS staying - he's still in night nappies

[dilemma456]

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not terribly unusual

I have friend whose ds was still wearing at 9-10

and your point is?

(so says a Mummy whose 6.5 year old has only just come out of them last week)

The GP won't do anything about it til they are 7. I know a few children of at least 6 who are still in them

More children are in nappies at night than you may think!

I wouldn't say it's common, but it's not unheard of. It may also be an infrequent problem, but the mum doesn't want to take any chances on your mattress.

Enuresis clinic (bed wetting) referrals can often be made up to the age of 8, and some clinics see up to ten year olds.

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if the mum doesnt see it as an issue & hes not bothered then why do you feel sad?

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Yep, DD at nearly 9 is in them. Night time enuresis is very common, and absolutely no need for the and

If you wish, I can direct you to some excellent websites, so you can become more informed.

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Being dry at night is rarely something a child can do much about; it can click any time from 18 months, and normally by 7 years old. But there are also many children for whom it takes a lot longer, through no fault of their own.

Night dryness has no relation to day time dryness.

You can't train for night time dryness.

Well done of the boy for still feeling able to have a sleep over and just get on with it.

Definitely don't say a word to him about it.

Dd is 6y and has only been consistently dry at night for past few months, still has had the odd accident but now more and more rare - thankfully for her as she hates it. She was dry in the day from 24 months, entirely self led within 2-3 days. Definitely not for wanting to e dry at night, that's for sure. Fortunately her two best friends with whom she has had sleepovers with have never said a word, although she hasn't had pul ups since turning 4 but she dd have a reusable bed mat in her sleeping bag.

and?

Glad my dd, who stopped wearing pull ups at six, never came for a sleepover at your house

Must admit, I'd be a bit shocked too but only because I didn't realise it was so common.

www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/40002178/

www.eric.org.uk/

www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleID=152#

I'm not surprised that OP is a little surprised, its another parenting myth that "children are out of nappies by x amount of years" that is easy to believe if you do not know otherwise.

I was a late bed wetter, cannot remember when I stopped, but I was older than the "norm"

very brave, of them to go on sleepver. glad it hasnt stopped them, i know of others who it does stop

I would have felt the same as OP
don't have a go and go when people like ua just do know older children's habits

Gosh, I'm quite surprised, this is late afaik.

Had only read OP and have now read other posts, fgs, no-one needs to have a go at the OP, she was asking a perfectly reasonable question in a polite manner.

I DO think it's VERY late for a 7yo not to be dry at night.

it does happen, there are adverts on the tv, they sell the nappies in boots, it is just not the norm. there are treatments for it.

Gosh ladies - give dilemma456 a break - she wasn't being nasty, just genuinely concerned for this boy, and she's said since that she hadn't realised how common night nappies at this age are

I hadn't either. My DS 1 (3 and a half) is still in them and I was beginning to be concerned. I won't worry for a while longer now!

I think it was probably the and the that makes ther posters somewhat defensive. It possibly feels a bit like the child was being juded for something that they have no real control over. I suspect parents may well feel rather protective of their own children, esp if still in this stage.

As GPs won't often even consider it an issue untila child turns 7y, then it can't be that uncomon really.

Nope, plenty of kids still wet the bed at 7 - which is why GP's won't even treat it until then.

Just make sure that if you do have a child with night time enuresis that you don't EVER show you're and , or make any derogatory or 'witty' comments. It's all to do with the nerves between the bladder and brain sending the appropriate signals.

not v late at all - a lot of children aren't dry at night at this age. tis v hidden because of attitudes of some of posters

WWW - you might want to have a look at the links I posted earlier - shows clearly that 7 is not VERY late.

The helpful links below to NHS direct state 1 in 7 at age 5 and 1 in 20 at age 10. Boys >girls. So I'd guess about 1 in 10 boys age 7 might be affected - not uncommon, but not the norm either.
My ds1 is 6.5 and bedwets fairly regularly (say once every 3-4 weeks), fortunately v rarely when away from home. He's been out of night nappies for about 18 months though.
I'm sure your friend was very low key about it because she didn't want to draw attention to it - and it sounds like you handled it well too.