What do grandparents spend on your dcs for their bdays?

[skippythedogfromthesea]

Just curious really....amounts spent from rich poor and in between grandparents would be interesting...

Post is triggered by disparity between what ds's grandparents sent him for his bday despite the fact I'd guess they are very similar in terms of wealth (probably fairly average I'd guess).

I would love it if my dad remembered to even send a [birthday or christmas] card to dd. He has an appalling memory, but no amount of jogging works.

I would love it if my mother even fecking cared enough about dd to send a [birthday or christmas] card. We fell out years ago & refuses to acknowledge her.

ILs buy what they feel dd would LIKE as a present, as does dh's Grandmother. Sometimes that can be clothes. They are all relatively well off, but dd seems to appreciate baking & working in the garden on a regular basis more than ridiculous expensive gifts.

Youknownothing - I suggest the first part of your name is telling. I did not pass comment on the amounts spent by my dc's grandparents. I was genuinely curious.

How can you infer from that that I am crude and common (I assure you I am anything but not that it's anything to do with you)?

I was just curious as I have said several times on this thread already.

Nowhere have I complained about the amounts the GPs spend or voiced ingratitude.

"Forgot to mention mine:
grandparent 1: £60
grandparent 2: £15 (this is what raised eyebrows - don't want to sound ungrateful though)
great gran: £100 (but she is really quite well-off so it's different)"

How on Earth can you justify "this is what caused the raised eyebrows" as not passing comment on the amounts spent? I am not saying that you are common, I am saying that the (perhaps unintentional) judgements you are making are common.

Feel free to back-track all you like. I cannot understand any possible reason for this thread. It is utterly pointless.

Great comment on my name BTW, seriously, ingenius.

You are way too bitchy for me. You win - ok you've made your point and I was wrong but there's no need to be so catty in the process.
You sound like my mum talking of people being 'common'.
Goodbye.

That is meant to say you sound like my mum, with her talking of people being common. Not suggesting my mum is common.

too blardy much.

as does BIL.

we have actually cut right back on what we buy the dcs at xmas etc as they will go and buy exactly what the dcs want anyway.

used to annoy me.

now i think "ah, their money" and means i get to spend less

Whatever

I was brought up to see discussing someone else's money (whether it is how much they spend on other people, what they earn, or any other context) as very unclassy. Perhaps that is the word I should have used to avoid the misunderstanding.

I do not think you are common. I do not know you. I would not make that judgement if I did.

MIL, who is very comfortably off, spends nothing because she doesn't think my dcs need anything. She spends £££ on SIL's children because they have less disposable income.

My parents, who aren't very well off, spend approx £20, but actually I wish they wouldn't. They always buy lots of really cheap crappy plastic things that fall apart and don't interest ds1, and it is such a waste of money. I'd rather they bought him one OK thing, or a book, or asked me what to get, but they think they know best.

I really don't know - it's never cash so how would I know - I think 15 sounds like a lot for a small child. We buy them more expensive things like bikes. My mil gets all worried over spending equal amounts - it comes from wanting to be fair, but it does rather take the magic off a gift when someones saying 'what else can I get them I've got to spend £5 more on dd2'.
I can't stand the ott sacks of gifts from inlaws at xmas - I am very very ungrateful!!

Erm.....why check up on cost of gift? Surely it's the gift that counts? Wonder about the values important in your household......the only good thing about money is what you can do with it. Money worship in this country is disgusting.

I didn't check up on the cost of gifts -the Gps gave money.

My mum buys £100 of premium bonds in ds's name every birthday (and Christmas), and about £30 on a present.

Ah! Are your children older then? Odd to give money for a young childs' birthday... unless it's going into a trust fund.
How do your children feel about the discrepancy? Does it bother them? I'm hoping not...........

No dc is only little.
Two lots live too far away to send actual gifts really.
The other one lives nearby and I'd much rather she gave a little gift she'd chosen than money tbh as it'd be more personal. A gift for a fiver but that she'd bought would be lovely. I think that maybe she gives money as she just doesn't know what to buy a pre-schooler though and thinks this way we/ he can choose something, so she of course means well.

Still not quite sure what your question is...is it the disparity between GPs that have a perceived similar income? or what actual amount is generally the norm?

Re: living far away.......a small gift wrapped up and sent in the mail is a wonderful thing for a young child. Doesn't matter what it is really...just fab to get a parcel and postage not expensive.

It is difficult knowing what to buy for a preschooler unless you're in the thick of it yourself, bless her. I usually make suggestions like board books or colourful tights or something.

But I'm not answering your question, am I...
Sorry!!

I usually spend 20-30 on my now 12yr old neice, depending on what I want to get her - usually a game and something creative/glamourous.