The Childrens Act

[PCBristol]

Hi - I need some advice please. I have been in a relationship with a women for 10 years. It has not been a good relationship. She has never been able to come to terms with the fact I have a lot of assets and earn well. She has never paid any bills or wanted to work. This is largely why the relationship has broken down. From my perspective I was doing all the heavy lifting. We are not married, we have a cohabitation agreement and no ties financially. We do however have a 4 year old son. I have enabled her to purchase a house as a buy to let, by paying her bills and I have also been putting £500 per month into her pension. In her eyes it has been 4 months since we split up in mine its more like 7 - so the truth lies somewhere in the middle. I have bought her a car and have offered to buy her a house under the childrens act. She has not bothereed doing anything for the past 4 months and now, based ont he fact she is not wanted in the house, its gone really toxic. She has not produced any house that she wants, or complied with any of the requests. She is basically stalling for time. What can I do, has anyone got a really harsh solicitor I can use as mine is too soft ? At what point can I evict her ? Has anyone doen thsi before ?

(interesting if the shoe was on the other foot what the rection would be ???)

I’d be interested in hearing her side of the story before offering advice.

I don't really understand why you've been paying to have a girlfriend who you don't like.
Are you parenting your child? Why not be resident parent, or at least 50/50

Have you ironed out the logistics of splitting up? You don’t appear to mention your child or how the care of the child will be split going forward?
This really needs to be settled before moving to two households surely?

What has she said about moving out? Has she explained why it’s not sorted yet?

I can’t lie though, as soon as a poster goes down the line of ‘what would you say if it was the other way around?’ it stops it feeling genuine.

Not sure what you mean by buy her a house under the Children Act (it's NOT the Children's Act). Can you explain please?

and have offered to buy her a house under the childrens act

I don’t understand what this means?

Any posts on here when a woman is housing some layabout bum and paying to have a boyfriend the replies are always 'get the cocklodger out of your house, obviously.' not 'throw more money at him!'

@TemporarilyCantDoMyself an excellent cross post 🤣

And yet I can’t see a single comment saying ‘throw more money at her’ nor do I think they will appear.

That aside there aren’t too many stay at home fathers so it’s not a direct comparison either.

Of course not, but the original poster does not make much sense and is already wondering if the replies will be biased due to sex.
The fact is not many people would pay to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, especially if they actively dislike the person, so I'm not sure why he's so keen to give the woman so much money.

There are a few answers here from the chain. I have petitioned for at least 50/50, I would have him 100% of the time if that were possible. The child is 4, the relationship broke down in reality about 2 years ago. We wanted him to be in school for support. Her side of the story...absolutely. To put into perspective. I have 2 children from a previous marriage. they are 16 and 14 and very clever. They have requested that my current partner has no contact with them as they disagree with her behaviour. That does put some of the comments into perspective. Yes, I have offered a house and a car (bought already) she wanted one for £750k for the 2 of them to live in....go figure that one. This is not really about the money, this is about her insistence on staying in the house. My children and I just want our time together in our house, without the constant stress of her. I ddi wonder if the shoe was on the other foot what the response would be. I personally think the childrens act is sexist. I have gone way way over and above the act, but the women is able to hide behind the act and throw it in. I seriously think that will have to chnage over the coming years.

I don’t understand why you think the children’s act really had anything to do with your situation.

I googled it and was thinking exactly the same!

OP, what exactly has your solicitor said? What did you tell them? You say they’re ’too soft’ - in what way?

Your 4 year old is going through a lot of change. Try to consider it from the child’s perspective. Let the child stay in the house and if you can afford to buy her a new one just buy yourself a new one?! Your older kids will cope with a change of house much better at that age and have the understanding that it’s happening so they don’t have to be around your ex