Lost feeling anxious

[Nowherebutup]

Heyy all I’m new here
i have two children DS&DD. I feel so anxious about their future about friends family etc. back story my mum died when I was only 1 year old, my grandparent plus my dad looked after me and after grandparents died it was my dads sister helped a little, she helped but wasn’t always there you know so a lot of big girl things I had to learn myself such as periods etc. I don’t have any family really that are around and friends I have don’t have kids. I don’t have any mum friends that I speak to. O have tried to set up play dates etc but the mum at school are clicks types.

I just worry my kids don’t have cousins and will be alone like me when they get older.

I worry especially for my DD as she doesn’t have sister she will be alone and be like me Does anyone feel the same anxity about their children or am I over thinking which I do alot

I can totally understand your worry. Losing your DM at such a young age must have had such a massive effective on you.

Your DD has you though.

As for the play dates, if you’re around after school, just keep asking different Mums if they’d like to come for a cuppa after school and let the DC play.

Free library events are usually quite relaxed to and the DC get to be with other DC and you get to have a brief chat with the other Parents.

You have two children so they won’t be alone - they will have each other. I have an adult DS and a DD and they are very close. I also have friends who have very little family but they have built a strong network of friends around them. Also, please remember that you only need 5 good friends, not hundreds. Go to free events - as suggested - or hang out in the park. You will gradually get to know people. My children used to tell me who they wanted me to invite for a play date.