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OneWarmAquaDuck · 28/10/2026 11:45

My former spouse unilaterally blocked my contact with my daughter following confirmation that she was not entitled to financial compensation due to the shared care arrangement that was established. Prior to this incident, my daughter and I maintained an exceptional relationship, and my daughter's relationship with my current partner was similarly positive until my former spouse terminated contact and significantly damaged this bond.

We have since attended family court proceedings, during which I faced numerous allegations. The court ultimately granted me one-on-one contact with my daughter, with the understanding that contact may be increased as we work toward rebuilding our relationship and as my daughter becomes ready to spend time at my residence.

I have complied with all court recommendations and have downloaded the prescribed communication application. However, my former spouse continues to obstruct my contact with my daughter, restricting our communications, controlling where I may take her, and has reportedly encouraged my daughter to lie to me . My daughter's demeanor has noticeably changed; she appears withdrawn, anxious about time spent with me, and concerned about inadvertently upsetting others. This situation is deeply troubling to me.

I am uncertain of my available options. I currently believe my former spouse will continue to prevent the rebuilding of my relationship with my daughter. I receive daily messages, and my former spouse frequently confiscates my daughter's phone, preventing our communication. While I cannot definitively prove this occurs, my daughter maintains consistent contact when she has access to her phone.

I am experiencing significant financial and emotional strain. I am seeking guidance on what actions I may take to hold my former spouse accountable for parental alienation, as this situation is causing me considerable distress.

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JustAnotherWhinger · 28/10/2026 11:47

How old is your daughter?

OneWarmAquaDuck · 28/10/2026 11:49

JustAnotherWhinger · 28/10/2026 11:47

How old is your daughter?

my daughter is 10.

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PixiePun · 28/10/2026 12:07

Hi @OneWarmAquaDuck
I sympathise after watching this happen to my DH for many years with his DD. Turned out good in the end but it was a hard, emotional and expensive process and it does leave lasting damage to the involved child(ren).

Firstly- log everything, keep a diary of these incidents, when contact is stopped and your ex reasons for it, removal of your DD's phone etc.
Try not to quiz your DD about things as this will increase her anxiety and only make her feel she has to chose between you both..... which won't help anything in the long run and also could risk your DD playing you both off against each other.
Make your home her "safe place" let her relax and feel at ease without any pressure to be telling tales etc she will talk in her own time and her own way you cannot lead this but do make sure she feels safe and loved and knows you are always there for her.

Secondly- Did you have legal representation during the first set of proceedings? If so I would contact your Solicitor again and explain the current issues and ask if they can provide some advice.

And finally have you tried speaking with your DD's School? Explain your concerns to them re your DD's welfare and the change in her demeanour and ask if they have noticed anything. It's a difficult one with the School as they often won't want to become involved in family issues with separated parents, but you could ask for a quiet chat with her Teacher or the Pastoral Lead I would keep it very simple though at this stage if you decide to do this and try not to delve into anything that may seem like your point scoring against your ex.

Good Luck

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