Wondering what other people do. For context, I grew up in an alcoholic home, became one myself but have mai trained sobriety for 30 years, had great therapy and feel I have recovered from the trauma of it all.
However, my autistic 17 year old went with a group of friends to her friends house to see her new kitten and hang out. They are a lovely group of girls, several of them are also autistic, so this is such a blessing as my daughter has struggled to find friends for years.
However, alcohol is now something they are experimenting with. I am fine with this as I know that my daughter is quite sensible around alcohol but I'm a bit uncomfortable with the parents of some of the girls buying them alcohol.
This Sunday afternoon the parent at the house gave them a bottle of vodka to share and another girl had brought some mead (parents homebrew for the medieval touch). My daughter had a couple of glasses but doesn't much like being drunk and finds it hard when people change, sometimes making the girls bitchy and mean. She says she feels sad and left out when the others are drunk but doesn't want to do it too.
I guess my main issue is parents providing alcohol, especially spirits on a random Sunday afternoon when it really isn't necessary. I know I have a history so am unable to work out if thos is normal. I just find it odd and sad that a teenage hangout needs to include alcohol.