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Concerns about child's speech

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HarvestingThePills · 24/10/2026 18:30

I have a 16 month old son and I don't know if I should be concerned about his speech.

He seems to be on track for his other milestones. He's walking and doing that almost 'running' that toddlers do. He claps and points when he feels like it. He can hold eye contact and other things. He is growing well for someone his age.

He started cooing when he was a few months old and by about 10 months old he started the screeching phase. I thought by now he would be saying a bit more. He says 'Hitty' for kitty, but that's about it. All he does is screech, which I really can't stand anymore. People say it's a good sign and that it means he's trying to communicate, but I can't see it like that and I hate it. I use headphones, breathing techniques, leaving the room, ignoring it, speak in a soft tone and other things, but it just never ends and he constantly screeches.

If I asked him a question, he seems to understand what I am asking. Like if I say "Where's kitty (his soft toy)?" he'll look for it. If he's tired and I asked if he wants to nap he'll make a small grunting noise.

I sing, I read, I tried things like Ms Rachel (that's the only thing I am willing to let him watch at this age) and even then he will glance at the TV before going back to playing. We attend baby groups and groups at our local library weekly. He has playdates with toddlers his age.

My friend's daughter is a little older and she can say several words and my son just screeches.

I did bring it up with the staff at the baby groups and my HV, but they were not concerned and said he'll get there when he's ready and it's not until at 2 years old then they would be more worried if he isn't talking.

I don't know how to explain it, but it feels like he doesn't want to try and talk. I know there was concerns when I was younger because I had trouble pronouncing words (but I was still trying to communicate) and would only talk to my family, so it's possible that might be passed onto him.

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TeenToTwenties · 24/10/2026 18:34

First question. Have you had his hearing checked?

HarvestingThePills · 24/10/2026 18:37

@TeenToTwenties yeah, he was checked when he was born and I took him to the GP a few months ago and they were not concerned. He responds to sounds; doors, voices etc

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JustaSongAboutPingPong · 24/10/2026 18:42

The screeching must be really difficult to deal with so you have my sympathy over that.

Did your HV suggest doing the 16 month Ages & Stages? Do you know what he scored in the communication section?

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Argostoys · 24/10/2026 18:47

Do the ages and stages questionnaire. If he isn’t hitting communication milestones then go back to the GP and ask for a referal to audiology and for SaLT.

HPFA · 24/10/2026 18:48

My DD didn't say her first word till later than this - about 20 months.

Her speech was quite unclear until about 3 - but luckily was fine by the time she went to school.

Her Dad is the most relaxed parent ever but even he admitted to a little worry when he heard a same age boy say "helicopter" when DD was stuck on "cat".

It's tricky at this age because mostly it will be fine but you always worry your child will be the exception.

Leavemetonguetied · 24/10/2026 18:51

HarvestingThePills · 24/10/2026 18:37

@TeenToTwenties yeah, he was checked when he was born and I took him to the GP a few months ago and they were not concerned. He responds to sounds; doors, voices etc

Doesn't mean his hearing is ok. My ds has chronic glue ear. He can hear but not certain frequencies. He had to have grommets in.

HarvestingThePills · 24/10/2026 18:53

@JustaSongAboutPingPong it sounds awful, but I absolutely hate it. I did and he was grey in some areas, but she wasn't too concerned about it as he is still young

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24Dogcuddler · 24/10/2026 18:58

His receptive language sounds good so that’s positive.
You could encourage basic animal sounds in play or with books, including noisy books baa moo etc.
Car noises brumm brumm neenaw neenaw etc.
Lots of nursery rhymes ,songs and repetitive or rhyming text. Pause to see if he inserts a word or sound or tries to join in.
Anticipation rhymes are good, Round and Round the Garden etc.
Ready steady go games are good pause to see if he will try to say go.
You could try some basic baby signing too.

Onceuponatimethen · 24/10/2026 19:01

Op please do not assume he can hear speech because he can hear other sounds. Human speech sits in particular frequencies and it is possible for them to be able to hear other sounds but not speech. This was the mistake we made and our ds was actually pretty deaf. After grommets his speech came on incredibly.

Onceuponatimethen · 24/10/2026 19:02

Definitely push for a proper hearing test. My ds had also passed his newborn screen

JustaSongAboutPingPong · 24/10/2026 19:40

HarvestingThePills · 24/10/2026 18:53

@JustaSongAboutPingPong it sounds awful, but I absolutely hate it. I did and he was grey in some areas, but she wasn't too concerned about it as he is still young

Do you know how many areas he was grey in and did he score black in any areas? Scoring grey in one or two areas is perfectly fine.

It might also be worth doing the the progress checker from Speech & Language UK. If it say that he needs some support they will send you some resources via email.

I do agree with asking the HV to refer him for a hearing test too Smile

Meadowfinch · 04/11/2026 08:39

My ds was 22 months before he said anything, even mama. Finally he said "key" meaning he wanted the car key. Then new words came daily. By his 2nd birthday he was putting sentences together.

All dcs do it differently. If your gp is unconcerned, I wouldn't worry yet. Just keep chatting to him.

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