Co-parenting issues

[Nightninjj]

I’ll try and make this short as possible. Ex has children every other weekend and every other Monday. We spoke yesterday regarding the approaching school holidays and as it is his Monday he should have the kids from Monday morning, however, his plan is to pick them up Monday night and drop them Tuesday morning as he just wants that overnight stay.
his house is a 40 minute drive away, the whole thing seems absolutely pointless.

he has also said I have to pay for childcare on the Monday and Tuesday which I don’t agree with as it is his day.

i have therefore changed the overnight stays with CMS as if I have to pay for childcare, feed them and keep them entertained for the full day they may aswell just sit stay with me overnight. He said he is collecting them on Monday regardless, there is no court order at the moment.

I did post this on AIBU but this seems a more relevant place.

Sounds like you might need a court order to formalise it.

he has monday - therefore if they are off school he needs to sort childcare as its his day

same when its your monday - you deal with childcare

It would usually be from Monday after school to Tuesday after school so he needs to arrange childcare for Tuesday until end of school day Tuesday. He can and needs to arrange childcare on Tuesday and that’s what you need to tell him.

More significantly have you not agreed arrangements for school holidays (50/50?)? It usually doesn’t follow term time arrangements. I think you need a detailed parenting plan agreed with him.