Separated parents co parenting how do you split christmas

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I am a mum to two and with my who has a child to someone else we have been together almost 7years he has his child every fortnight and takes him 28 days extra in the year despitr that his child is coming 10 and never had his child on christmas eve normally collects his child on christmas day around lunch time and has his child on boxing day to but last 3 years he has asked can ot be rotated to be told no because she doesnt have a partner and because my partner has a family my 2 children alwaya ask how come my partners child cant share christmas eve with us thry are younger he has been separted from his child was 2 and a half now his child is coming 10 and still he has asked next year because it fallls on his weekend and again been told no what rights does he have and how does everyone else do it

It's not fair, rhe mum is being unreasonable. It's selfish in my opinion.

We alternate. One year I have them Christmas Eve to Boxing Day and then New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day. The following year he has them for those days. It works really well for us snd both of us are committed to fairness when it comes to birthdays/Christmases etc.

We used to leave step daughter with her Mam on Christmas eve, and collect her after lunch and keep her until 27th. We worked it that way because we are a family of 6 (including step daughter) but at her Mam's house there's always been just the 2 of them. We all hated the thought of her Mam getting up on Christmas morning alone, and eating her dinner alone. We had to change some traditions about etc, but it was the best way to work it out. Step daughter doesn’t miss out, we just do things a little differently.

Just to add, if my ex H were to be alone at Christmas, without doubt, the kids would stay with him, regardless of whose Christmas it was. We both have new partners and supportive families so it isn’t an issue for us, but the first year following our split, he had them. Both the kids and I would worry about him being alone.

is that one weekend a fortnight? does he live quite far as he has him so little? I get that it must really interfere with your day if he has a long drive.

I think at that age it's child's choice and he probably wouldn't want to leave his Mom alone Xmas morning

We alternated-
one year - me Xmas Eve and Xmas day til 4pm Exh Xmas day from 4pm, Boxing Day and New Year’s . The next year we swapped

Before I met dh I was along Xmas day

This to me is logical the way she sees it is she doesnt have a partner or family now my 2 kids are not his but hes raised them since youngest was 10months i think it should be rotated we have been called everuthing under the sun told he is trying to control her and she is his mother who gets final say and told him kts not happening i am fed up with it all

The only decent thing my exh ever did after we split up and divorced was to agree I should have DC on Xmas Eve and Xmas day and they would go to him for Boxing day and 27th. I know it was because at the time he felt guilty because he'd had affair and he couldn't be bothered with sorting out stockings from Santa and doing all that wrapping up. He also didn't want to cook Xmas dinner. I have been very grateful to him for agreeing our DC are with me Xmas Eve and All of Xmas day..They are adults now but still choose to keep to the status quo. Nowadays I go DH, you gest DS, me and 2 foster DC all go to eldest DS's one year, youngest DS's the next year and my house the following year and I pay for all Xmas dinner food and snacks regardless of where we are hosted. I like not having to cook every year.

Pressed too soon, exh spends Xmas with his new partner of 20 years and occasionally hosts one of her DC.