My 9 year old has always been very strong willed at home, despite being shy and mild mannered when out of the house. I know we are at the end of a long term, but her behaviour is exhausting at the moment. She argues endlessly with everything I say or ask of her. For example, it is cold - please grab your coat. Queue head thrown back in frustration and endless cries of not needing a coat and subsequently being quiet and subdued when still asked to bring one. As another example, this morning we had to leave 20 mins early for school and work. I gave her a ten minute warning before her teeth needed to be brushed, then 5.minutes, then I called her upstairs. She wouldn't come - kept saying i will be one minute. Eventually made it upstairs, and lay on her bed for another 5 mins. She was told off but stayed in go slow mode and just would not speed up. We ended up leaving ten mins late and I was late for work. She has continued to argue all evening about little things - something her sister has said, her dinner etc. Before bed, I got very annoyed about her behaviour and went on a bit too much over a couple of minutes. I reminded her how loved she is and that the only expectation back is kindness and respect for her family. She repeatedly grunted at me, rolled her eyes and continued talking to me like I was annoyinf her. I left, even more annoyed. Half an hour later I went back to apologise for being cross and have a chat before bed. We were having a joke and she was pretending to be grumpy, but in doing so used her feet to push me out of the bed and hurt me. I didn't make a deal of this at all, but on reflection - it was too much!! Unsure how to handle as ignoring the behaviour doesn't feel right, remaining calm and trying to talk gets ignored and shouting has no impact at all.