I am really struggling with my 4 year olds toilet training (potentially on the spectrum and already completed the referral form for him to start the process). He turned 4 in September and starts reception next year so it is crucial I nip this in the bud asap. I had made a few attempts from when he was 3 years old with help from the teachers at his pre school and it has just been a nightmare each time. He has only ever successfully had 1 wee on the toilet. He does have accidents which is what we want, but he does also have days where he holds his wee in all day and that is worrying. The weeing isn’t too much of an issue as he will get the hang of it eventually, but now what has happened, as he has been in pants all week, he has been holding in his poo all week, he is now extremely constipated and keeps saying his tummy hurts, isn’t eating very well and I just have no idea what to do at this point! It has really affected him and I have put him back in a pull up just so he can go for a poo but he is so constipated now that I don’t think he can actually go.
He also doesn’t take medicine, again with him potentially being on the spectrum these things can be impossible, so anything that will help him poo might be problematic. Suppositories are the only thing we can use but you can’t buy them over the counter . He is very particular with his diet and even hiding medicine in food is tricky.
I feel stuck, I feel like a terrible Mum, I have no idea what to do! I feel like my 15 month old will be potty trained before my 4 year old at this rate.