Am I setting my child up for failure

[newmommy2006yay]

Hi, I've had a friend I thought I lost years ago reach out to me for his mother, and the mother was asking if I wanted her to have my child in her daycare so I can find a job. The only thing is, she is autistic and we are unable to crack toilet training sadly. My mom's friend is well aware of her needs, but I am wondering if I'm setting my child and the rest of the kids up for failure?

I don't understand what you mean sorry ? Your child has some special needs that is hindering toilet training how can that set up your child to fail, if the woman is fine with your child at her daycare . I don'tunderstandthe issue
(I am assuming you are not in the uk)

This post doesn’t really make sense

I am lol. Basically, I'm asking do you think it would hold her and the students back if I allowed her to go @Lomonald

Can you start again?
I can't understand what you mean.

Don’t understand. And also - you mention students?? How old is your daughter - 4 or 14?

children with additional needs go to school and childcare, i still don't understand why you think that would affect the other children because your child is still working out going to the toilet.

I apologize; basically, my question is that my child has autism, and she needs nappies. The teacher is well aware of her needs, but I'm just wondering if it will disrupt the class if I accept the offer since she needs nappies and fidgets a lot @ToKittyornottoKitty@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne@Lomonald@BakedBeeeen@

@BakedBeeeensshes 3; it's a playschool. I'm not too sure what the word is we call a baby school, but I'm not too sure people would know what I meant if I said that

Are you trying to toilet train?

Hi op, as the mother of an autistic child, who is now adult, I would give it a go and see how your child gets on. If you know and trust the person running the group, so much the better!

Obviously, you will have to discuss your child’s special needs at length with her nursery teachers.

From my experience, my dd was almost potty but not quite potty trained when she attended nursery, despite our best efforts, and being around others her age and being able to copy them, really helped her to progress! Pret pressure can work favourably sometimes!

It depends though how reactive your child is to new environments and other children and whether they have spent time away from you before? Most nurseries allow you to build up attendance times gradually nowadays.

If you go ahead, I hope all goes well!

@BansheeOfTheSouth yea, but like she has no clue when she needs to go, so we have been trying everything

Did you use chat gpt ? That is probably why we have no idea what you are talking about. Your dc sounds young under 4 ?they are all fidgety at this age some need nappies changed, if there is extra staff or a 1-1 for your dc then send them to playgroup.

@Ohthefatigue7532 yea, she will most likely be building up to a full week;. She knows one kid from the park @

That sounds like a good start!

As long as you plan to keep trying, can't see how you are setting her up for failure. Not all three year olds are fully toilet trained and the daycare doesn't have a problem with it. Send her and go find a job, being financially secure will be better for yours and your child's future. Finding childcare that can accommodate SEN needs is rare, seize the opportunity @newmommy2006yay.

@Lomonald i am dyslexic, so I use tools, and one of them is Grammarly, so maybe it looks AI idk though

What’s the first bit mean about the friend you thought you lost years ago reaching out to you for his mother? How do you they no you don’t work? And how does that relate to your mums friend?

I am so happy we are working stuff out on Wednesday, but like she can be in by Monday next

So I had a friend named Danny, and his mom works with kids in her playgroup, so she had a space and asked me if I wanted it

And you do want it?

Do you think your DD will enjoy going there and benefit from it? If you do, don't let your DD's lack of toilet training stop you. A great many toddlers aren't out of nappies and they're all known for fidgeting.

Yeah, I am taking it, thanks :)

Aw I'm sure your little girl will enjoy it.
My DS wasn't out of nappies till he was four and a half, and he was also a terrible fidget. He is autistic.
DS is an adult now and he got a degree and has a good job.

That gives me a lot of hope for her, and she will she loves people thx

Ah ok, fair enough it was just a bit difficult to decipher we got there though 🙂

I am sure your little girl will have a lovely time, and little children are accepting i hope it goes ok.