Husband not helping much with baby and I am exhausted

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Husband barley helping with baby, he doesn’t help with house work but I enjoy to do it so that’s not an issue but not once in the 14 weeks since baby been born has he offered me a lie in, I’ve asked once as was exhausted but it didn’t happen he stayed sleeping so I got up with baby.
i could count how many times he’s helped during night on one hand and that’s because I passed him the baby but now he just doesn’t hear he when she wakes, I usually get to her before she cry’s but sometimes she does cry.
he also gets me time at gym 6/7 days a week which includes before work and I get once a month to get my nails done while he takes her a walk, yesterday I said I’m going to shop and he said no cos she will just cry for me.
we struggled to have her took 3 years and agreed on how we would share the load but it’s all me all the time and I’m exhausted.
he does work 3-12, then up about 9 for gym while I do school run with older child.
and today baby was so unsettled from 5 am and I raised my voice to him cos I’m tired and he’s just went back up to bed to sleep.
ive tried talking to him about it but he’s tired too he says

Every word of this. You have a very low bar OP. Think about what you'll be teaching your daughter. Do you want her to have a selfish manchild partner like this eventually?

This is an infuriating read! Like everyone else has said, he needs to put his wants aside and focus on what is needed at this stage. How will baby learn to take a bottle from him if he doesn’t do it regularly? If she’s happy in the carrier when you’re out, why can’t he wear her in the carrier in the house? You need to set parenting expectations now or this is going to continue forever and you’ll be the one sorting all the school bags, PE kits, football match drop offs etc etc. it is the time for brustal honesty and boundary setting.

She doesnt even like housework. She like a clean house and knows he wont do it. She has no choice.

She has a choice.

Are you on proper contraception at least? Not just something daft like pulling out?

OP read your posts. Look at how often he says something and you just accept it. But when you say something he argues.

He isn't management. You aren't staff. You should be a team. And he's not playing. So match his assertiveness. He says something, disagree. You say something, expect at least dialogue.

So, basically, you’re doing everything and when you go back to work you’ll still be doing everything AND working.

You’ve got yourself saddled with a lazy, selfish arse there, I’m afraid.