I am just at my wits end with my 14 yo daughter (suspected ND.) I thought all was going well and we’ve just been out for coffee at her behest which I was looking forward to, but she stormed out of the cafe saying she hated spending time with us, we were always negative, it was never fun, she wants to go to her friend’s house because it’s always nice there.
I’m just nonplussed at the rudeness and drama of it, I’d never have dared to have spoken to my parents like that at her age (and they would never have taken me out for cake and coffee except for birthday.)
I had said we couldn’t leave her sister (12) behind as that wouldn’t be nice/ you can’t leave a 12 yo home alone. That may have been the root of the problem. Bought cakes and coffee, both kids upset because I said 2 cakes between 3 (cakes were the size of bricks!). Briefly spoke to 14 yo about incomplete homework., then it seemed to be a nice conversation until she got upset.
I just feel so sad that it seems impossible to do what I took completely for granted with my own family, which is spend enjoyable time together having a civil conversation and taking it in turns to speak. It is so hard.