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Four-year-old suddenly scared of school after troubling toilet incidents

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Kathy1212 · 25/09/2026 11:32

Hello. I am a bit conserned about my son. My son is 4 year old and Just started reception year at school. First he was happy to go to school But last week every morning srarting saying he doesnt like school he is afrsid. Scared of school. Cryi g and begging not to go.
Also it was situation week ago that boy in a toilet touched his private part and go. Yesterd i noticed black paint or like dirty glue on his private parts. I asked him gently and he said boy in toilet grabed his private part and the other one show him how to wash it eith boys hands. I am bit shocked as its hard to belive 4 year olds playing that way at toilet. I told mu son first time its happen to go and tell teacher, what he said He did But I hsd no communication from her about incident. Im not sure if he is bullied or he mskes it up. But it seems strange . I dont know what to do . Also he fidnt seemed troubled about icident at the toilet But Im eortied maybe something else is going On. We hsd meeting with teacher few days ago But she never mentioned bulling we also didnt mention toilet incident as we was t sure about it . But if it hsppened second time its worring. And its in his Group of 4 -5 year old.

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SatinHeart · 25/09/2026 11:35

You need to report that straight to your school's Safeguarding Lead (there should be a poster up in School reception/office telling you who it is).

SeptemberRains · 25/09/2026 11:38

Yes report that immediately.

24Dogcuddler · 25/09/2026 11:49

Absolutely report to the safeguarding lead today. In a Primary school it’s usually the Head Teacher.
This is probably happening to others who can’t communicate what has happened.
The child who is doing the touching may also be at risk.

ChestnutSquash · 25/09/2026 11:55

Follow up in writing.

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