How do you handle primary school behaviour issues at home?

[SillySeal]

If your child has challenging behaviours at school, how do you deal with it at home?

Do you address it, does you leave school issues at school or do you have consequences at home too?

Particularly early primary school aged.

I dont want to give too much information as to not be outing.

Ive had a number of children at school but never had issues like this before so its not something Ive dealt with.

I’d ask for a meeting with class teacher and/or SENDCo. They might be able to give you a steer on whether it’s SEND-related or just poor behaviour.

The first thing I would do in the situation you describe would be to think about SEN. Do you think this could be a factor? That would affect the way I would approach this.

Child is thought to have SEN, have for years but its only just being considered by others as a possibility.
Sensory tools have been put in class but hurting others almost daily is difficult to hear and why Im wondering on what approach to take.

If they're suspected sen my focus would be on a calm home space where they can regulate themselves before and after school.

Behaviour is communication! So what is happening at school, what is triggering the behaviour, what could child be struggling with, are they adequately supported and supervised etc. I'd ask for a meeting with teacher and senco to discuss.

If they have the understanding you could look at books together but if these behaviours are happening due to unmet needs then even if they know they shouldn't hurt others they may not have the capacity "in the moment" to restrain themselves.

If your child has, for example, ADHD, sensory tools are going to make a tiny difference. Meds, on the other hand, would make a huge difference. It depends how you want to approach it.

Unfortunately, I don't think meds is a route I can go down. Maybe in a few more years but at the minute I dont think that will be an option.

Thanks. Thats what we are doing now. Keeping it separate.

Weve had a meeting but they are keeping an eye on it at the moment in school. Not getting their own way is the main trigger. They dont get their own way all the time at home but its taken a while to get ok with that.

Weve got loads of books and go through them regularly. I dont think they have that restraint in the moment like you said. Ive seen that myself many times.

In this situation but less extreme, I started off asking the teacher how I could support, and then graduated onto asking the senco, he was on the sen/educational psychologist/referral list at that point anyway, so he was already on the radar for getting support.
Ultimately you are really limited in what you can do as you're not there so you just have to provide full support to the school and accept any EP/senco/salt/social and communication/etc support and assessments offered.

Ive asked what they want me to do to support, the answer was they dont know.

DC under a few things already.

There's a lot of talk from parents about their kids not going to school to get hit. I get it, I do but I am not sure what I am meant to do about school from home.

Your child needs more support urgently.

Can you pursue a private diagnosis, are you getting any help from the GP and why is school only just coming round to the SEND possibility?

They have only just started this school, previous setting said no evidence of SEN.

I think ill make another GP appointment