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“I don’t like you”

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Hummingbird233 · 18/09/2026 20:51

DD is in Y1 and is a pretty relaxed sort of girl. Goes with the flow and open to making friends although until recently hasn’t bonded with anyone. Luckily she’s starting to make closer friends now.

Theres one girl who was pretty nasty in reception. Lots of “you can’t come to my party”, “they can have a playdate but not you”, “we dont want to play with you” type antics. She had a close group of friends from preschool so started with a ready made gang versus my DD who didn’t know anyone.

I’d say shes pretty similar to her mum. Mum is quite rude about other mums, always speaks loudly in groups and likes to think she’s a queen bee etc.

Anyway, I mentioned it a few times to the reception teacher who seemed to do nothing about it, and now it’s continuing into Y1. Today, my daughter was told “I don’t like you” by said girl and her best friend.

We've taught our daughter to tell the teacher, although it seems she tells the child “I’m telling” but then doesn’t actually tell the teacher. So I’ve reinforced it’s important to tell the teacher so he can help.

I’m tempted to email in to inform the teacher myself but I’m also not sure if this is normal 5/6 yr old girl antics that will blow over? It’s not affecting my daughter too much, although she did say tonight that whilst she doesn’t cry outside, she cries inside 😢

Would you email the teacher?

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StormGazing · 18/09/2026 20:53

Often kids follow their parents lead … good teachers will try to guide the pupil whom is being a brat … good luck but teach your own child about resilience too

Hummingbird233 · 18/09/2026 21:04

StormGazing · 18/09/2026 20:53

Often kids follow their parents lead … good teachers will try to guide the pupil whom is being a brat … good luck but teach your own child about resilience too

Totally agree. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree here from what I can see.

Do you have any tips on supporting my DD to not care? Luckily she’s quietly confident but I do worry this will chip away at that.

My daughter didn’t know anyone when joining the school so has taken a long time to warm up. Whereas this little girl joined with an existing friendship group from preschool, which I think has shifted the power balance.

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Didimum · 18/09/2026 21:17

Best to teach your little girl that she should want nothing to do with someone like that anyway. Teach her that good people don’t try to make others feel bad about themselves and that she should spend her time with people who make her feel happy.

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