Hello all,
I'm after advice or maybe just a place to share to get grounded more.
Currently my son has struggled with the transition from primary to high school. He originally was meant to go to a specialist send school but ended up in mainstream. This has made him very depressed and sad to the point he won't go into the school.
I've been fighting years for his ehcp to be robust enough for a specialist school. This was recommended by health professionals as well as his past school. As many of you know it's a tough fight where gaslighting and ghosting occurs. Multiple times he went to panel for the specialist school and multiple times I was not updated with the outcome, meaning the time passed where I could've requested tribunal.
Now there's so many issues with the current school, from information handling to thinking allowing him a timer and the ability to take his blazer off is enough.
Panel is in October and my wedding is after this at the end of October.
I've been so stressed the past few months I have forgotten to book things for the wedding as most days I am contacting multiple people regarding my son's send needs. My dress has damaged which I can't find anyone local who has space to repair too as it's so close to date.
However I also have seen so many couples go through fighting these processes and that the time waiting for tribunal can be up to two years. Many couples intimacy vanishes or becomes strained during this time. It's made me really think lately if I want to put my partner through that.
We currently have a very robust relationship however since having to speak with more people to get my son's disability needs met our intimacy has lessened. I feel so stressed all the time I feel our communication is focusing on how to get my son support and very little space for other things.
We're trying so hard but pushing against a system that often will make it challenging to navigate.
I've read that many couples so break up and that some don't. Also reading more about couples living separately to navigate the send process stress too and this working for them.
I feel like my wedding is already ruined due to this.
I care deeply for my son and he needs someone to stand up for him. But championing for him has meant many of my dreams are vanishing.