ok so I might be the arsehole here. I have a rule with our 9 month old, she doesn’t come in our bed, except very early mornings when no-one is expecting to sleep.
My husband unfortunately doesn’t agree with this, largely because he doesn’t do tired the same way I do. And before anyone slags him off he’s a wonderful father just pretty useless between 12-3. Which was normally fine but I’m anaemic and struggling and he thinks bringing her into our bed is better than doing the work to settle her - I feel alone