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Help! What would you do? Shall I cancel DD's party?!

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:07

Am panicking a bit. DD1 (4) threw up all Thursday night (along with 4 of her friends from nursery) but was fine friday and yesterday, eating normakly etc.

Then DD2 (2) threw up at 3 am this morning and has thrown up three times more, though is quite sprightly inbetween. DD1 has thrown up twice this morning and is sleeping again.

The thing is, it's DD1's birthday party this afternoon - hall hired, bouncy castle, 40 children coming, 45 balloons, three days of baking biscuits & cake etc etc. And I think we're going to have to cancel.... DD1 will be soooo devastated and so will I TBH.

It is a joint party so the other little boy could go ahead with his guests (and my baking!). Shall I wait and see how she is later or start ringing round now?!!

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Sparkletastic · 29/06/2008 08:10

Oh blimey poor you . When my DDs had this vomiting thing they were bad in night / mornings then absolutely fine by the afternoon so you could risk it. I'd leave it as long as you can before cancelling - not like other parents won't understand.

Flllight · 29/06/2008 08:11

I think it's pretty clear, that your children can't go but I am sure the other children and the little boy will be grateful if it still goes ahead...it would be a shame to cancel it. Maybe your daughters could have another do next weekend, just a small one? Their friends will still bring them presents today and you could collect them perhaps?

Sorry you are having to deal with this, typical isn't it that when something big is planned someone will throw up

FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:12

well, it's not so much whether your dd will be well enough, IMO, it's that you will give it to all the other guests

sorry but I think you should cancel
very sad timing etc
but they will be quite infectious, you could give it to every other person attending and it really isn't fair

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BecauseImWorthIt · 29/06/2008 08:13

Can't see how you can go ahead, tbh - you risk passing it on to others as well, which wouldn't be fair either.

for you/your DD

Flllight · 29/06/2008 08:14

I was at a party yesterday, with about 24 other children, and tbh if I had known any of them had been throwing up that morning I wouldn't have set foot in the place! Everyone will be grateful that you are telling them, nobody will be annoyed.

I think people would much rather have something cancelled or postponed than go along and catch something!

ChippyMinton · 29/06/2008 08:15

Your guests could still attend couldn't they, even if the poor party girl isn't in attendance?
Mind you if your DD is still poorly, won't some of her guests be ill too?
for your DD. How old is she?

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:17

Yeah, I think you're right plus there will be pg women there (including me!). Don't think I've ever been so disappointed by anything ever. Excuse over-reaction but DD1 keeps saying "I'm not too poorly mummy", meaning she's fine really, but I'm going to have to tell her she's not. Think I'm going to cry

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FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:19

It's ever so disappointing and I am so sorry for you all
I don't think any of you should go - it will be very good karma and people will think you very honourable
well done

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:23

I would ring people and tell them about the throwing up and give them the choice of whether to come or not. I think they v often get over these things v quickly at this age and she could be fine by this pm. they both could. as it's a joint party you can't cxl it anyway so i think it's about seeing how they are later and telling people so they have the choice, you would have to explain to dd that some people might not come because of it though. if they seem ok in between it cd well be v different by this pm.

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:23

Not sure I can bear to be there without DD. There's only a couple of the guests who are specifically DD's, so it can go ahead more or less as planned and I don't mind paying for it etc as planned. I just can't bear the disappointment. Will have to do a tea party or something for her instead, next weekend. At least I can freeze the birthday cake.

DD1 doesn't worry me so much s she's quite a sicky child and it rarely means that she's actiually ill. But DD2 never throws up and she hasn't been able to keep anything down since last night and that's not a good sign.

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:25

the stupid thing is, I normally don't big up things in advance in case they are ill but this time I did - DD1 helped choose the bouncy castle, helped stuff the pinata, helped decorate the cakes etc, the poor love.

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WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:26

and you don't know it's infectious, cd be something they both ate. but I am not partic bothered about keeping my children away from others who might be under the weather. i think as long as yougive people the choice. things cd be vv different by this pm for your dds.

mrsruffallo · 29/06/2008 08:26

staranise- sorry, I agree you must cancel. Your poor dd1!!!
She probably wouldn't enjoy it if she is not well, anyway.
Could you cancel and rearrange somethong for next week?

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:28

i think you sd leave dd2 at home and go with dd1 as long as she's not throwing up by this pm. it's ages til 4pm

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:29

so i don't think it's the law that you cancel, i think wait and see

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:30

I realise am lone voice on this thread. 4yos can recover v quickly ime

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:31

wd start ringing round now though with promise of update at 2 ish

FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:32

"i think as long as yougive people the choice"

but how do you do this? phone everyone and say 'we've got this bug but are having the party anyway'?
then the parents have to say to their children "well the party is going ahead but YOU can't go because I don't want you to get sick"
passing the buck a bit, isn't it

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:34

but you see f and z i would go. it wouldn't bother me. not everyone is worried about it. and it may be moot as op's dd1 may well be better by this pm.

mrsruffallo · 29/06/2008 08:35

But two of them have thrown up this morning- what if they vomit at the party?
I am not the most cautious in these matters, but in this case I would have to cancel I 'm afraid.

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:36

and i know lots of people with children who wd risk it on basis that it may not be infectious, and a bit of vom isn;t the end of the world even if it is. up to each parent to decide what to tell their own children imo

mrsruffallo · 29/06/2008 08:38

But surely better for the birthday girl to actually enjoy her party?

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:38

well i reckon dd1 cd well be a lot better by this pm. dd2 is smaaller and it won't matter if she stays behind. and if that is it for dd1 and she doesn't throw up again then shame to cxl.

FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:39

I think it puts everyone in a very tricky situation, WWW
and I think people deserve not to be exposed to illness when it is easily avoidable
if you were giving everyone a real choice, the choice would be "would you like me to bring my infectious children to the party, or not?"
of course no-one can give a really honest answer to that question anyway! but that would be the real choice

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