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Help! What would you do? Shall I cancel DD's party?!

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:07

Am panicking a bit. DD1 (4) threw up all Thursday night (along with 4 of her friends from nursery) but was fine friday and yesterday, eating normakly etc.

Then DD2 (2) threw up at 3 am this morning and has thrown up three times more, though is quite sprightly inbetween. DD1 has thrown up twice this morning and is sleeping again.

The thing is, it's DD1's birthday party this afternoon - hall hired, bouncy castle, 40 children coming, 45 balloons, three days of baking biscuits & cake etc etc. And I think we're going to have to cancel.... DD1 will be soooo devastated and so will I TBH.

It is a joint party so the other little boy could go ahead with his guests (and my baking!). Shall I wait and see how she is later or start ringing round now?!!

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WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:40

good luck op got to go but hope you are happy with whatever you decide

Lovingthepink · 29/06/2008 08:41

What does the mum of the other child whose party it is say? If she is happy for her son and family to have germs around then you can ring round. If not however - the question is answered. Personally I would not go if you rung and said she has been sick - I try to avoid bugs at all costs with three children and pathetic dh!

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:42

we ll have to agree to disagree then i really don't think it's a big deal, and i think parents are adults capable of deciding for their own children. we're not talking leprosy here we're talking some vonmity thing which may or may not be infectious and may or may not be gone by this pm

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nappyaddict · 29/06/2008 08:43

If you think dd1 isn't infectious and is better by this afternoon then I would go and leave dd2 at home. she's probably too young to care anyway. If none of their friends have been sick too it is more likely to be something they ate.

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:43

sorry for crap typing on the eee

FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:43

yes I know am killjoy about such things
sickness bugs a big deal for a lot of people though - it isn't just a cold

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:45

but equally fz it isn't a big deal for others so thats why i think its ok to give ppl the choice - you wouldn't go, i would.

Mutt · 29/06/2008 08:46

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FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:47

well, personally I would rather rearrange something at another time so that ALL the children should come
but anyway, we can see we have different viewpoints on this, as lots of people do - we won't agree!

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:47

i agree joint party giver gets a say in it.

FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2008 08:48

good point Mutt
you can't IMO expose the other birthday child and all his guests - and it isn't good enough to say "well don't come if you don't like it"
anyway
will go and be killjoy on another thread somewhere
hope all dc better soon and that something can be rearranged for the party

WideWebWitch · 29/06/2008 08:49

op sorry to have muddied the waters, realise i;m in a minority!

mellyonion · 29/06/2008 08:49

on no staranise! how horrible.

if it were me, i would cancel...its not fair imo to have a child with a tummy bug of sorts to a party where there are lots of other children......if she had only been sick today, i might wait and see, but the fact she was poorly the other daym, and also that her little sibling has it too suggests its more than a freak one off puking incident.

i would keep anything you can at home...the pinata, some cakes, party bags or whatever you have, and have a birthday tea at home...a blanket on the floor type picnic with treats you don't usually have.... and then invite her best friends around during the week or next weekend for a small tea party...

its really disappointing i know, but just imagine...food, cake, juice, jumping on a bouncy castle.... it's fairly likely to end in a messy way!

hope you have as nice a day as you can, whatever you do.

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:49

Well, she's not looking so good right now, lying on the sofa, very pale, although asking for food.
I'm not usually super-cautious about these things either but there's not point taking her if she's not going to enjoy it. DD2 is bouncing around as per usual and sems fine (except for the vomiting!) but DD1 is barely moving. She does tend to bounce back quickly but I would hate for the rest of nursery to then get it, especially as they have a week full of end-of-term activities planned (which might make up for missing her party a bit I guess).

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ssd · 29/06/2008 08:50

I'd let the party go ahead and give parents the choice

I'd let my kids go, they can catch a bug anywhere and at least they'd enjoy the party!

Mutt · 29/06/2008 08:52

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:54

The other birthday boy had the same bug on Thursday (as did DD1's other bf) so I don't think his mum will be too bothered and I know she will be upset for DD1.

But TBH we don't have a choice at the moment, she's barely got off the sofa - liek you said, can't imagine her on a bouncy castle...

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:56

At least it's not actually her birthday (which was two weeks ago) and she'll still get presents and a cake.
Could do a tea party one afternoon with some party food and balloons but would only be able to invite a few friends as house is small.

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mellyonion · 29/06/2008 08:56

maybe you could take her cake into nursery for snack time next week, and sing happy birthday to her then? ask her teachers if you can come in to take some pictures, or if they would take some for you on your camera?

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staranise · 29/06/2008 08:59

And don't worry WWW, I know lots of people who would agree with you. I'm jsut a bit paranoid about sickness as we once inadvertently gave winter vomiting virus to a lot of DH's family and were not very popular at the time!

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nappyaddict · 29/06/2008 09:01

oh it seems that it is infectious then if the other little boy had it and dd1s friend ... unless it was something they ate at nursery but that seems quite doubtful.

tortoiseSHELL · 29/06/2008 09:03

We postponed ds1's 3rd bday party because of a sickness bug - but we were only having it in the garden, so wasn't such a big deal. We would have cancelled anyway, since ds1 and dd were both being sick (ds1 decided to be sick in Asda, out of the trolley, all down the bread aisle, while I was buying his party food....nice!), but as it happened dh and I were both sick too.

If she's been sick this morning, then the last thing she needs is bouncy castle and party food - I normally keep them off food for 12-24 hours altogether, and then only let them have rich tea biscuits!

It is a real shame, but you can do something special for her another weekend - what I would do is to have a special 'family + 1 friend' outing next weekend, and then a bit later in the year reorganise THIS party - and have a 'non-birthday' party for both your dds.

Sorry for you and your dd! It's so sad isn't it - I was really sad when ds1's was cancelled!

skippysmum · 29/06/2008 11:07

This is such a shame for you and your dd - can totally understand your disappointment.

About a year ago we took ds to a party. When there it was mentioned by the mum of one of the bday girl's relatives that her little girl (a baby) had a d and v bug but that because she was a baby still and therefore wouldn't be walking around, they'd keep her away from the other kids so it'd be ok.

Well, about half the guests ended up getting the bad d and v bug later that day/ the next day.

The host mum was really mortified about it.

Slightly different situation because it wasn't the bday girl who was ill but just to show how things can spread. My guess is that the mum of the ill baby had germs on her hands and that's how it spread.

I remember at the time thinking 'oh great we're all going to get this' and me and dh did and I was actually quite annoyed that they had taken a baby with d and v to the party resulting in us being very ill.

Anyway I digress. I know it is really shitty for you all and such a disappointment but imho you have to keep your dds at home away from the other kids.

I hope you get to do something fab with them to make up for it and that they get well soon.

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staranise · 29/06/2008 11:11

Yes, I think it is unfair to inflict it on other people. Luckily D has a lovely couple of weeks of end of term stuff coming up plus I'll probably throw her a little tea party next weekend ofr her closest friends. At least I'll have her birthday cake still!

It's put me off ever organising anything big again however...

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chocolatespiders · 29/06/2008 11:12

how is dd now?

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