Has anyone moved their baby to their own room before six months?

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My little one is 6.5 weeks old and currently sleeps in our bedroom in his crib. He's a 98th percentile baby - for reference he is already wearing size 6-9month clothes.
In the night he keeps hitting his arms on the side of the crib and waking himself up, he is also an incredibly loud sleeper and I think I keep getting him out of his crib too soon because I think he is stirring when he isn't.

He is a good sleeper and has a very chilled personality, he doesn't like to be fussed or held too much, he just likes to be involved and is incredibly nosy and watchful. He is so good at going to sleep, and will often just fall asleep if you out him down drowsy.

I am struggling though because his sleep noises are keeping me awake - last night was especially hard and felt like the last straw, he slept 4 hours which is amazing but was so noisy that I just couldn't sleep at all. This often ends up with me cuddling him in my bed because it makes him quieter for a while, but I don't want to cosleep, it's not the right decision for us.

I want to put him in his own room, I feel desperate to do it just to get some sleep. We have a good monitor and he likes his room for naps. But I know the guidance for refucing SIDS risk Is not to move them until 6 months. I don't feel that his risk is particularly high with being such a big baby, but I dont want to be a bad mother moving him too soon.

Sorry for the rambling, I'm just so sleep deprived and wondering id this would be a solution for me, baby and husband - has anyone else moved their baby to their own room early?

Its so awful when you're exhausted but the guidance exists for a reason and large size is no indicator of risk for SIDS.

All the people saying they did it and it was fine are right they did and it was but that is survivorship bias. The families who lost their babies to SIDS aren't here this moment but they do exist.

Why not try other options like white noise or bigger cot in your room before moving to the option which is against current guidelines.

You won’t be any further away than those of us with big bedrooms! I’d get him a cot as he’s a big boy. Follow cot rules and he will be fine.

We moved our child into their own room around 6 weeks as they were so noisy and we needed the sleep! Doors were kept open, monitors were on (we were in a fairly small flat anyway) and it was all fine!

Get some earplugs. It cuts out the snuffling and snorting but you’ll still hear when he stirs properly.

Hyper vigilance is there to keep your baby alive.

Yes agree with trying earplugs first. But if that doesn’t work - do what you need to get sleep. Exhaustion isn’t just horrible, it’s unsafe.

We moved our son around the 3 month mark, with a video baby monitor. He wasn’t comfortable in the next to me crib anymore but we couldn’t fit a full sized crib in our bedroom.

He slept a lot better once we moved him, and so did we. Not because he woke us up any less, but we were all disturbing each other less. We didn’t have to creep around if we needed the loo etc, and baby didn’t disturb us with his snuffling sleep noises.

It's just me and hubby and he works 6 days a week. I'm exclusively breastfeeding so DH can't help in that area but is good at taking hime between feeds in the evening so I can shower and rest a bit.

If you’re EBF you’ll definitely get more sleep jf you can safely cosleep. BF lying side to side and you barely have to wake up. Also get your DH to do the evening shift and you get a few hours sleep in the evening

Our dts went straight in their room when they were leleased from scbu at 7 weeks as our room wouldn't fit 1 cot nevermind 2. Our older dds were in our room for what felt like forever.

Week 7 I moved my dd, she was being disturbed by DH’s snoring. But it was sort of nice having one room that wasn’t full of baby things.

Don’t co sleep. He absolutely can be in another room and close. Why would co sleeping improve anything? You just get worried about smothering dc! It’s swapping one issue for a worse one.

‘Sort of nice not having a room full of baby things’ versus ‘proven guidance that your child will be less likely to die.’

tough one, I can see that.

its sad you think cosleeping is ‘worse’ than a tiny baby on their own, during the time they are at the highest risk of SIDS. Cosleeping is the global and historical norm.

We did the same around 10 weeks I think it was. We did get an extra clip on his nappy that monitored heart rate as well for extra reassurance through

Same, and first was in their room at 12 weeks. This was 1999 and 2001 different advice. My friend who had her DC 1998 and 2000 had them in their rooms from night two, night one was in the hospital.

@Peonies12 Don’t be so ridiculous! He’s going to be in a room opposite op! Not in a separate wing in her mansion! Why do we have this silly idea that mums can suffer all night and then look after dc adequately the next day? He will be a few meters away! He’s not abandoned and won’t have much idea if he’s asleep! Give mums a break!

Of course, lots of people have done it, and over 99% of the babies will have lived to tell the tale, as plenty of people on here will anecdotally tell you. But the data suggests he is more likely to die in a different room at this age. I could have not worn a seat belt for every car journey I’ve ever taken and survived, but that doesn’t mean it would have been a good idea.

His size is irrelevant, other than I appreciate he may be growing out of a little crib sooner than smaller babies which may be adding to the restless noisy sleeping.

I personally put up with the noise by wearing earplugs (actual crying would wake me) and knowing it was only a few months. FWIW, the particularly noisy grunty sleep only lasts a couple of months. I couldn’t have relaxed knowing I was doing something that might increase SIDS risk, no matter how small.

We did, can’t remember what age but well before 6 months. Being sleep deprived is dangerous in itself.

We did at 7 weeks. Our bedroom is tiny and DH was starting a new job which involved getting up for very early shifts. DS cot was on the other side of the wall between the 2 bedrooms. We also kept both bedroom doors open (and the cats locked in the kitchen).

Why didn't DH move then? Rather than a tiny baby being left alone in a separate room at night?

Exactly. Taking measures to reduce that protective vigilance just goes against the whole point of why it exists. You're supposed to be hyper attuned to baby's needs at that age! The vigilance wanes naturally over time anyway, when it's safer to do so.

I didn't even though would have loved to as my mum woke up and found me blue aged 4 months. She thinks she must have heard me breathing differently as she woke with a start. She called an ambulance and saved my life with mouth to mouth.

We did at 5 months with our twins because they couldn’t share a cot anymore and we couldn’t fit two of anything in our bedroom with us.

I kept my first baby in with me for too long (with the benefit of hindsight) and ended up having to sleep train her at two years old.

The next three got chucked out of our room at six weeks. They slept through fairly quickly, although of course I had a monitor so I could go through and feed them.

I fully breastfed all four for years.

I removed mine early because I couldn’t sleep at all.

In hindsight I should have let them share with DH or at least has the baby monitor in reverse so the could hear us breathing.

We also had a tiny house, I would still wake up as soon as they stirred for a feed.

Can your DH sleep through it?