Name changed for this, as could be identifying with my other posts.
DC's father is driving me insane, not sure what I'm looking for here, probably just a rant (and apologies if I've posted this in the wrong place).
We split a little over a year ago after a very long relationship due to issues with finances, jealousy, coercive control and emotional abuse, difference in parenting styles and a lot more. He was also a hater, hated that I'm ambitious, have a decent paying job, investments and was trying to do well for myself. He was also horrible to our pet. I ran as soon as I could after our joint tenancy ended and moved away with DC and pet. Since then he's been unbearable and putting him on the birth certificate is the biggest regret of my life because it means I actually can't get away from him.
He refuses to accept the split, says derogatory things about men only wanting me for my body as a single mum, extremely inconsistent with DC who has sadly started to notice, at only 3. DC always asks for him to pick them up and it's like getting blood out of a stone. He's only had DC overnight a handful of times as his main concern is what I could be doing with my free time when I'm not with DC 😒. I co-parent with my family more than him.
He's dangerous, any time I have been alone with him since the split he has touched me inappropriately or asked for sexual favours infront of DC, so I avoid being alone with him. He's flashed me while on video call to our child when they weren't looking. There's so much more but probably too much to put here. I've considered a restraining order but I don't know if that will affect his income and I need him to pay for our child at the very least. Until I get a higher paying job anyway.
He's also inconsistent with money, he does pay DC's nursery fees but always late, I always have to call to remind him. He agreed to send maintenance for DC monthly aswell but he always forgets to do this or sends it late. DC only goes to nursery part time so the child care fees aren't expensive. There's no point putting him on child maintenance because he's self employed so will probably end up paying less than I'm getting.
Every time we speak all he wants to talk about is that I "broke up the family" but it was a terrible environment for DC and I and living together was starting to become dangerous. I never had post-partum depression when DC was a newborn but I'm wondering if it's possible to develop when the child is a toddler, I feel so depressed and sad all the time that I will literally never be rid of him. I've blocked him on my main phone but it's never enough. I can't move countries for work, do anything basically because I was stupid enough to put him on the birth certificate. I've worked full time since going back from maternity leave (early, because he didn't do what we agreed) and I'm annoyed and stressed and burnt out, I just want rid of him. And it's frustrating because DC loves him and asks for him constantly, I would never say anything bad about their father to them but it's frustrating. I probably need to put my child in therapy because of the affect this has had on them.
I'm hopefully moving soon and won't give him my new address, my family is happy for him to see DC or pick them up at their house.
I don't know what I wanted to achieve with this post, just to rant I guess.