C Bombs in Tesco! Where do kids learn it?

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Hi Mumsnet,

this is my first post and feel a bit anxious about posting.
i am a mum of 4, and one is called Ivey. So MumOfIV kind of works on two levels 😂😂

I am posting because I am fed up of my judgy friends when I ask for advise on the usual mum’s WhatsApp groups at school

so i thought I would try mumsnet after a recommendation

in short, I was out shopping in a supermarket and I was with my two sons. 3 and 8. We were using the self service checkout when the machine said “unexpected item in packing area” without any warning and to my horror my 3 year old screams out “shut it, you cnt” literally dropped my baguette in horror! I was speachless. As I took a deep breath before challenging my 3 yr old my 8yr old son screams out at the 3 yr old “for fcks sake. Why the fck did you say that?!”

where do they learn these words from ? I’ll be honest me and their father limit swears to S and B bombs in front of the children. Where do they learn F bombs and C bombs (male and female)

I have no idea.

DS said his first ‘bugger’ loudly at playground (aged about 2 - he’d barely spoken until that point) and his first ‘fuck’ during a quiet moment in the cinema.

They save it for when they can show up.

You can say cunt on here.

8 year olds learn it at school unfortunately. But should also know not to use the words (sort of feels like your 8 year old does know, on some level)

3 year old knowing cunt and even 'shut it', is worrying though. Who looks after the 3 year old, he has heard an adult use those words around him. You need to investigate that OP.

I remember DD saying 'silly bugger daddy' when she was about 3. DH had to leave the room as he was spluttering with laughter and didn't want her to see he thought it was funny.

She did say fuck in front of me last year, aged 36, and immediately went bright red and muttered 'sorry, sorry mum, sorry'.

My eldest learned it when someone shouted it at her and her classmates when they were visiting a secondary school. So at ten. Youngest doesn't know it yet (if he did he'd say it.) I have no idea how a three year old can pick it up, who has been saying that around them before they're in school. Are you sure you didn't mishear him?

My 8 year old occasionally likes to mutter fuck for dramatic effect but I’d be horrified with anything more (and I hate that he says fuck for a reaction). Are you sure that’s what your 3 year old actually said? Even being around said 8 year old my 4 year old thinks the ‘F word’ is idiot and the 8 year old knows better than to correct them.

Mostly they learn from family, or close caregivers

Home.

I've told this tale elsewhere: some years back, our school Depute called in a father whose son had sworn at a teacher.

There was an interview with the dad, depute and son. The dad supported the school and the kid was sent back to class.

Dad: "A dinnae ken what tae dae with him Mr X. He's an awfy c*nt fur swearing!"

Another time, we had a mother come in with her toddler - an angelic looking child - to have a chat about her older son.

The toddler got away from his mum. Mum ran after him and caught his hand. The child looked up at his mum and lisped "Fck off btch!"

ETA The mother had moved home to get away from abuse. I'm assuming that the toddler picked up the language from his father.

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Is that so?