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Occasional Bedwetting Accidents

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BeHangryEagle · 24/07/2026 22:14

My dd is 11, and heading into year 7 after the summer.

After at least 5 years without a problem, we’ve had 3 bedwetting accidents in the past couple of months, totally out of the blue. No routine changes other than the impending move up to secondary school, no diet or medical changes either.

She’s perfectly well in herself, no toilet changes or problems whilst awake. It may just be freak accidents, it happens (I remember feeling the shame of doing it once maybe a year or two younger - not that there was anything to be ashamed of!), or puberty wreaking havoc with her hormones, but with it happening three times now and how embarrassed and upset she’s been, I wanted to check in and see if anybody has any ideas or advice? It’s clearly not the end of the world, I’ve dug out the old mattress protector and we’re just being matter of fact and playing it down but I don’t want her to be upset and obviously a bit worried about something happening at a sleepover or on a guide camp or school residential.

Appreciate any pointers, thanks!

Ps. I was quite an active member when dd was younger, but haven’t really needed any advice as she’s become that bit more self sufficient, and now I can find my serials hence the new account. 🤦‍♂️

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KnickerlessParsons · 24/07/2026 22:17

If it helps, when I was a Brownie Leader taking girls on residentials we almost always had at least one who wore a night time pull up nappy. Brownies are 7-11 years.

BeHangryEagle · 24/07/2026 22:26

KnickerlessParsons · 24/07/2026 22:17

If it helps, when I was a Brownie Leader taking girls on residentials we almost always had at least one who wore a night time pull up nappy. Brownies are 7-11 years.

Thank you! 😊

I know one of her friends was still wearing one for sleepovers up to last summer, although think it was more “just in case”. To be honest she hasn’t worn a pull up since she was 3 or 4, so I’m not sure that idea would be well received, nor necessary at this point, but good to have a back up plan in case it’s not a short lived problem, or maybe again just in case if somewhere an accident would be more of a problem or more easily discovered.

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KnickerlessParsons · 24/07/2026 23:45

I wasn’t particularly suggesting you put her in pull ups, but just letting you (and her) know that it’s not unusual to bed wet at her age.
You could put absorbent padding under her sheets though, to protect the
mattress - if you haven’t already.

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BeHangryEagle · 25/07/2026 00:01

Ah thanks, sorry that’s how I read your post too…I was just thinking out loud really as I imagined how she may react to that suggestion. 🙈

There are definite signs of puberty progressing, so I really do think it’s probably just her hormones out of whack a bit and maybe a little apprehension about September. Sorry, not really sure why I posted, I just had a bit of a flap after she’d been upset going to bed earlier worried about it happening again (there was an accident last night, and she’s clearly been brooding about it, then her crying got me brooding 😵‍💫).

I’ve found the old mattress protector we used when she was younger, I actually kept it on for years after it was needed for peace of mind and then took it off not all that long ago, glad I kept hold of it now.

No doubt it’ll all feel much less like the end of the world tomorrow, think I just need to get to sleep and stop sitting fretting over something we have no control over. Thanks for the hand hold and support, much appreciated ❤️

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