Coparenting draining me.
I need advice.
so I have a 2 year old girl been separated 1 year. I don’t get any money everytime I talk about it it’s next time I get paid. If I say CSA he says he will quit his job.
throughout the year he’s been asking to borrow money in the beginning I felt bad and would but now I do not! It can be as annoying as him asking for £10 because he needs to buy soft drinks because he’s hot. But it’s CONSTANT like 3/4 times a month he will try. If I don’t lend it I get a tonne of abuse like I’m out of order, selfish, spiteful etc
our daughter after a painful amount of conversations now goes to his every other weekend for the weekend and then every other Friday for just the Friday it does work but it’s took a lot however he messages me constantly (this is his first child my 3rd) asking dinner times, suggestions, where he can take her what could he do with her etc it’s a lot.
I’ve said it’s your time just spend time with her work it out yourself he threatened me for months with 50:50 but that never happened!
he always make excuses for everything!
my latest battle is the heatwave he said 2 weeks ago he’s not having her as it’s too hot (he rents a room in a house) this weekend is his weekend he said she’d be better at home Friday night and then it’s only one night at his in the heat this weekend yesterday he messaged all day while she was with him suggested I get her I said well if this is the case she can’t stay in summer until you have a plan in place for the heat I’m not going back and forth and not being able to plan anything on his weekends for him to turn around and say she needs to come home it’s your time with her your her parent - but this is me making the decision that she swears at his all night - he said he will manage then late last night I got pictures of her sweaty head so I went and picked her up after him saying I piss him off and I make decisions not In Her best interest just because I wanna be an arse … if I even suggest that he needs to come up with an idea:plan going forward he says well I dunno what the weather is gonna do.
i turned up at his and he said where have you been because I was wearing a dress I said none of you me business then he messages last night saying if you was at the pub watching football you only had to say … I’m not telling him any of my business and why would that have made any difference to the heat!
he infuriates me honestly and it’s now going to be the summer holidays and he’s going to try and control whatever he can.
I know I’m a good mum I will have my girl 24/7 but I’ve been trying to make sure she has her time with him but he makes me out like I’m selfish
someone give me some advice I don’t even care if you all say I’m stupid but just help with what I do
like is he abusing me I know he’s trying to control me I wanna scream/cry