Came across this clip from Michelle Obama
https://youtube.com/shorts/Flw2hMQEBzM?is=j3aN_dQbUBQXXzWX
It's about how her and Barack separated the workload of parenting young babies.
In short, she spoke of the need to let go and not micromanage to allow him to develop their relationship so he could trust him to take a significant portion of the workload.
I think it an approach a lot of us mums could heed to our benefit.