DD is 3 and 3 months and has been using the potty and toilet for wees,with no issue. She had this figured just before she was 3. Poos are a different story. She will only do them in her knickers. Sometimes big ones, little ones, smears. For this reason it’s hard to tell where the issue lies; is this sheer defiance or is there an actual issue?
she will very proudly tell you she’s done it in her knickers and isn’t bothered in the slightest. My husband and I feel we have tried EVERY approach with this; paying it no attention, paying it attention, using rewards and incentives, taking away privileges etc.
we sit her on the potty / toilet regularly and ask her to try (squeezing etc) and only on a couple of occasions has she done it where she’s meant to. We have of course celebrated these efforts and made a fuss…just for the pooing in the knickers to then resume. It’s almost like it’s a game for her. I don’t think it’s an issue of being scared of the toilet or potty as she will wee on them no problem. We talk about poos a lot; she watches videos and reads books about them, she’s seen myself and husband go…so it’s not a lack of familiarity either.
we are going through knickers like there’s no tomorrow- we are saving and washing them where we can but a lot have to be binned. We are trying to patient and keep telling ourselves this is just a phase like everything else…but I really don’t know where we go or what we do next.
any help or tips would be hugely appreciated!