Baby Preston Davey - Content warning concerns CSA (added by MNHQ)

[Sadmamma35]

I’ve just read about baby Preston Davey and I cannot stop thinking about him. I have a 13-month-old of my own, which is probably why this has hit me so hard — I can really relate and my baby is my everything.
I’m crying as I write this. Why does it hurt so much for a baby I’ve never even met? Has anyone else felt this way?
How do you cope with the negative thoughts that follow when you read something like this? 💙

"It seems that Varley was resentful at being left alone with Preston so much from texts we saw at the trial and that resentment could have led to abuse." This keeps coming up. No one sexually assaults a baby to death because they resented looking after them. Stop trying to make excuses for an abusive, sadistic paedophile.

They are, but I’m thought that in one of the trial openings it said that M-F’s sexual assault charge related to the cot bars which were dismissed as evidence in the trial which confused me. But I remembered wrong, and the sexual assault was a shared incident which I don’t think we’ve heard evidence of yet, or if so it hasn’t been reported.

https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/uk-news/preston-davey-trial-live-updates-33844580#entry3922915

Please find the part in my post where I said it excused his actions. It’s clear he had sexual interest in poor Preston, but that he was also physically abusive too. Saying that caring for a baby alone which was much more difficult than he expected provides a possible explanation for his actions, is not in any way excusing it. Nothing can excuse abusing a baby. This is a highly emotional trial and I haven’t seen a single person here saying that they think it was ok for Preston to be abused, and it’s wrong for you to say that’s what I was saying.

I quoted it exactly. You said resentment about caring for him alone could have led to abuse. There is no explanation for what he did.

There are explanations but they aren’t very pleasant ones.

It is possible the intent was positive or at least benign to start with. It is also possible it wasn’t.

It is possible that when the baby was home the reality of a baby crying and not sleeping made them angry. I think that is normal actually. But the anger obviously went to a very, very dark place.

It is possible that the anger caused either one or both of them to distance themselves from the child; they resented him, they didn’t like him, he made them angry. And once that was there that cleared the way for other awful things.

Or it could have been planned from the start; we just don’t know.

Preston should have been starting school this September.

If both of them are paedophiles then I wonder how long they'd been planning the whole thing. Did they meet through a paedophile site or paedophile ring and plan from the start to adopt a baby to abuse? I feel like them choosing a baby rather than an older child was very likely to be deliberate so that he wouldn't be old enough to tell anyone what was happening, or to be in school with staff who could pick up signs of abuse. I do think them being gay made people less likely to raise concerns if they had them, as they wouldn't want to he accused of homophobia. We know from Rotherham and all those other awful cases that social workers and other professionals involved in child welfare can be prone to putting their wish to be seen as progressive and to not risk being accused of any kind of bigotry above the welfare of vulnerable children. Abusers will know this and they are going to use it to their advantage.