Baby Preston Davey - Content warning concerns CSA (added by MNHQ)

[Sadmamma35]

I’ve just read about baby Preston Davey and I cannot stop thinking about him. I have a 13-month-old of my own, which is probably why this has hit me so hard — I can really relate and my baby is my everything.
I’m crying as I write this. Why does it hurt so much for a baby I’ve never even met? Has anyone else felt this way?
How do you cope with the negative thoughts that follow when you read something like this? 💙

It must ve quite traumatic for you too

That poor baby should be waking up tomorrow on his 4th birthday. I stayed up to decorate my DS’s cake for tomorrow and couldn’t help thinking of baby Preston. I’m pleased he has justice now.

Happy birthday to your DS. Just hug him a bit tighter tomorrow for Preston❤️

It’s the family court/ judge that decides whether a child is to be adopted or placed with family members. The social workers do the assessments but do not make the decisions

I am so sorry to hear your experiences. I think you have done so well too.

@Breadcat24I, also, was terribly upset tonight after watching the video of poor, innocent little Preston bouncing up and down to "the wheels on the bus". Such a picture of absolute innocence, he should have been safe, who the hell handed him over to those two perverts? Preston has been let down by so many people who came into contact with him, not just the two absolute monsters who tortured and murdered him. May they rot in hell.

Sentencing on Thursday

This is one of the most shocking murders I’ve come across . There seems to be no end to the depravity some men display . I hope they have a very hard time in prison and are shown no mercy by other prisoners .

That feels quick. Does it not usually take longer?

I couldn't stop thinking about this last night either. That poor, poor boy.

I think it’s sometimes delayed for psychological reports or similar - perhaps they either already have them or as no defence has been made regarding mental health they’re not considered necessary.

I don’t think that two gay men should adopt babies or young children. Older children yes, babies and toddlers no, they need women. I don’t care if this is unequal.

Preston was killed 3 years ago so there has been plenty of time to investigate/ assess

Plus depends on the availability of the judge/courtroom

I think that’s possibly a reasonable measure, given that adoption is meant to be about the interests of the child.

I think that question will be asked now . This whole approach to welfare of vulnerables based on woke principles and too many afraid to speak out .
Having said that I know a gay couple who adopted 2 primary age brothers and have done a fabulous job .

Yes, I know gay adopters who really are lovely people (as much as you can tell but I’ve known one since we were at primary school.)

I heard an interview with the grandmother and it didn’t sound like it was her choice not to take him!

Someone who has already raised one child to be completely unable to function in society would maybe not be an ideal choice to raise another child.
Obviously with hindsight you can say she would have been better than the adopters but the social workers at the time couldn't have known that.

This is my thoughts . If you raise a 14yrs daughter to become a sadistic killer how suitable are you to raise any child .

She is apparently already raising Preston's 7 yr old sister/half sister despite her previous track record which is concerning

She is also 66 yrs old which must have been a consideration in placing Preston with her

Because they must have hid it well. The social workers can’t be there 24/7 unfortunately.

It seems as tho' much of the post-placement monitoring and support was by phone/ whatsapp because the SWs were from where he was born in Greater Manchester not local SWs

The teen years cause such changes in the developing brain and sometimes that is when any underlying mental illness shows up. I wouldn't condemn the grandmother as a poor parent because of what her daughter did.

Apparently she wanted to bring up Preston but found she had breast cancer so he wasn't placed with her.

Teenage years are hard going and for that reason alone granny could never have been a realistic option to place a baby with - looking after a non sleeping baby is hard but imagine 80 year old cancer survivor trying to parent a challenging teenager alone.