At what age should boys stop weeing on the toilet seat?

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Need some advice from other boy parents please on something that is driving me mad!
At what age should I expect my boys to stop peeing all over the toilet seat, or be able to clean it up if they do? I have two boys 9 and 11 and multiple times per day they pee over the toilet seat despite me and DH talking to them about it and gently reminding them. Will this ever end?!

You need to tell them to sit while peeing. Adult men should also do the same. Tell him it's easier, cleaner, and it's disrespectful to leave wee anywhere but inside the bowl.

Don't they lift the seat to pee?

But at those ages they should definitely be clearing up after themselves. Send them back every time to do it.

Get them some target stickers to train them.

I have a 7 year old with ADHD (so prone to not paying attention) he doesn't pee on the toilet seat and hasn't since he was toilet training. When he was really tiny I'd get him to sit and pee maybe your two need to until they can aim. Or revolutionary thought if they make a mess they clean it?

I'm sure my three boys had their aim pretty much perfected at that age. Get them to lift the seat up (and preferably put it down again afterwards) and if they make a mess send them back in to clean it up. That tends to focus their minds - and their aim.

They are old enough already.

You need to take them back every time and teach them how to clean up after themselves. They also need to either sit down or lift the seat. This will take some effort but if you’re consistent they will change.

If they’re behaving like this at home, they’ll also be doing it at school, at friends houses, at the cinema etc. Disgusting.

My SS19 still pees on the toilet seat and won’t clean up after himself. I’d expect by 12 they’d at least be able to aim properly and clean up after themselves. My DC’s are still infants so I know I have all this to come 😅

My mum used to call out my brother for it after asking gently multiple times. Didn’t matter if he had friends over or was in the middle of something, he had to go back in and clean it. He then had to get into the habit of wiping down the toilet after he’d been so there was no excuse in missing.

They will stop when you stop "gently telling them" - I don't mean you need to be harsh, but you can kindly and firmly tell them and/or steer them back to the toilet, hand them a piece of toilet paper to clean it up, and let them know that in future, they need to either lift the seat, sit down, or clean up after themselves.

Children (well, people of any age really) don't usually change habits unless they are inconvenienced by them.

stop "gently telling them" and drag them in, by the ear if necessary (joke), to clean it up. Every time. Get them out of bed to do it if you have to.

But also they should lift the seat to pee, then close the seat and lid to flush.

Or sit to pee. Millions of German men do that with no issue.

Most men never do because nobody teaches them not to.
My DS has never done it because I made sure he always cleaned up after himself.

Go and check the bathroom everytime they go and make them clean it up then and there. They are well over the age of being capable of cleaning up after themselves.

Also they should be lifting the toilet seat (and putting it back down) or sitting to wee.

My SS19 still pees on the toilet seat and won’t clean up after himself.

why doesn't he? tell him he is not welcome in your house until he stops peeing on the seat and/or cleans it up properly so you never know he does it. His father is a useless twit if he is not insisting that he cleans up after himself.

They should have been cleaning it up from the moment they were toilet trained. I've got 5 boys (men now) and I very very rarely had to call them back to clean up after themselves, because part of toilet training is teaching them that they clean up their own mess. I'm not their to do that any longer than I have to after nappies come off.

No gently telling them, they need to do it every time.

Mine stopped/learnt he needed to clean up if he did when he was 5.

Shout for your dh to do it. His lack of parenting has caused this so he can deal with the consequences of cleaning up his son's pee.

Wow, thanks for your comments everyone- that’s really helpful and we are clearly not getting this right and have some way to go!

I have 4 boys and they never did that! They sat down to pee when they were toilet training. Standing up peeing was only for outside until they could control their aim. Then, I put a ping pong ball in the toilet for them to aim at. That was around age 3. It was never an issue!

In fact, forget about when they should stop - they should never have started!!

I work with preschoolers. Most of them manage to get it all in the toilet. Sometimes there is silliness which goes everywhere but they are generally very good. My sons never made a mess, I have 2. One of my sons said someone's if he waits too long or has been sitting on a weird position it can come out at a weird angle or spray. He says at night he always sits on the toilet as it's too dark and he's half asleep so it makes a mess if he stands. They have both always cleaned up after himself.

In my experience, if they are doing this at 9 and 11, it will continue to adulthood. Get them to clean it every time and also to clean the toilet properly every so often, mop floor etc. They will soon get the idea that it's not just women's work, and a much more pleasant job if they get it all in the bowl.

My son was taught to sit down. I can’t be arsed with cleaning up someone else’s body fluids. This obsession with men standing up is ridiculous.

I call my son back in to clean it up if there is piss on the seat/floor been doing that from about age 7 I think. Told him if he is making a mess standing and honestly can’t do better then he needs to sit. I’m fairly sure he sits most of the time now because he hates cleaning the toilet floor funnily enough.

I’d say about 7. By 9 I’d of trained them to wipe up after themselves just spray and wipe with a bit of loo roll that gets flushed. I leave a bottle of dettol next to the toilet brush.

Child's father needs to sort this out pronto!

Ds 9 and 10 never pee on the seat, because they sit down. Simple solution!

Firstly, why isn’t the seat up? How can men be so disgusting as to pee on the seat and surrounding area anyway?
That’s why I don’t like it when workers ask to use the loo, that and the fact they choose to do dump of the week and make it stink.
I second the trend for men to sit on the loo to wee.