Why do twin parents pay double but get no extra help?

[Twinmama11]

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately… having twins means buying everything x2, but there’s not really any extra support or discounts out there.

It kind of feels like we’re just expected to manage it?

Does anyone else feel like this or is it just me?

Kitting mine out for secondary school cost me £350 per child .... this would be staggered usually or handed down.

If you don't want the risk of multiples, stop the fertility treatment. Having children isn't compulsory.

If you want to have two, and you get two at once, great. Two kids for the price of one career-damaging mat leave instead of two.

DD is friends with a triplet (2 girls and a boy) they barely speak to each other, she doesn’t even know what a levels her brother is doing.
Friend has twins who are extremely close but are still going to different unis as they want to do different things.

Not much financial difference between having twins and having two babies 11 months apart really is there. Only thing you'd have to have two of which you wouldn't for babies 11 months apart is moses basket

handed down

Not if you have one child of each sex. Girls can't wear boy's clothes and vice-versa, because of the fit being different.

It's staggered though!! Might only be 11 months but it's still not at the same time.

I agree- wtf.
clearly mostly people commenting who haven’t had twins so ‘it’s not happened to me so I don’t give a fuck’ attitude. I have twins- no ivf. No twins in my family. Two sets of bottles, clothes, car seats, more expensive pram, 2 sets of school uniform in the same month. Secondary was horribly expensive with no hand me downs and two new sets to buy in the same year. School trips x 2 not staggared like it would be with school kids on different years. They have been on 3 residential in their school life so far. Rather than £600 per child for the week it’s now £1200. Because they are in the same year group. Can’t have anything down as they both grow out of stuff together.
same age playmate- yes, but because they are at the same age and development there is a war from age 2 about every tiny little thing. I’ve got older kids and having twin boys is totally different to having staggered kids.
Not saying there should be hand outs but just to say oh well - you should have known it might be twins. No. We all know there are small risks for many many things when we get pregnant but we plan for a Normal pregnancy as that the far more likely outcome

When did our country get into the mindset of "extra help" for everything... Help for heating, help for pensioners, special needs at school help, help for just about everything...

Sometimes in life the answers has to be plain old "no!" because there isn't the money, the people requesting the 'help' haven't paid in what they will inevitably take out (often 10, 20 times what they paid in), and the pot is getting smaller due to our country becoming economically smaller.

People can whinge, grumble, quote their "rights" endlessly, but priority for anything should go to those whose struggles in life were not caused by their choices (alcohol, smoking, online gambling, and yes, having endless children), rather were caused by sheer bad luck - illness, disability, accident, victim of crime, victim of war (serving our country), victim of abuse, and so on...

If you can afford 1 child, you should have prepared for the fact that having sex might equal twins. Or use contraception.

And to the poster saying how the twins meant she needed a "massive car", tough. I'm not paying for that!!! A vauxhall corsa has 4 seats and 5 seat belts.... You are taking the proverbial...

Any money spent on helping people with cars should go to disabled who need motability cars to be modified, those who had meningitis as children and lost limbs, servicemen/women with the same situation.

Not those with endless children...!

What in the sweet lord are you talking about? Jesus talk about clueless.

Yes but at least it’s different year groups! Not all in the same September!

Precisely this!

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What exactly is hard to understand about an 11 month gap?

If you can afford to pay for IVF, it's a bit difficult to argue that you can't afford to buy two car seats or a double pushchair. It's a bit like people who can afford to buy and run massive cars saying they can't afford to pay a fiver for city centre parking.

I shouldn’t have to pay for IVF tbh, but we are being stretched to do so as we desperately want (yes, want) children. I can’t help having PCOS and the wait list for NHS is a year for fertility help. Not that I need to explain myself or my decisions to you!

Most pay for IVF by loans etc. most people undergoing IVF can't afford it but I presume you don't understand infertility so you don't get it.

“You’re just expected to manage it” 😂 well yes, because you chose to have children.

Not the same as running a car we can’t afford whatsoever - it’s a health issue! Maybe be grateful that you’re not in the same position where you need it

I hadn't even thought of two residential trip costs. 😳

Why is that different to having g two kids a year apart though ?

Most prepare for one child, not two though! Not the same!

You have two kids so you paying for two of everything, if someone gave you a discount they would be out of pocket? I have two kids and don’t get any discounts.

I have 3 kids and uniform is not staggered. if you discount my youngest as he is a boy so there has been some but not much hand me downs due to different sizes/builds my older 2 are only a school year apart and boy/girl so not able to wear the same uniform. I have to buy uniform for both of them at the same time - no different to twins. and there actually was a uniform change at one point so everyone had to buy completely new! so didnt matter what the age difference was it stopped any hand-me-downs for a year of so for everyone.

Amongst my pensioner friends, many rolling in cash after inheriting property, losing the winter fuel allowance was "awful" and "a disgrace"... One said... "but we give the money to charity!!!"

People often can't see their own privilege or why others (taxpayers, often themselves struggling) shouldn't hand them cash...

They could give the money to charity anyway... They just don't want to! Easier to give away someone else's money...

Like it's easier to want 'help' with twins after paying tens of thousands for IVF...

£600 each for school uniform? At a state secondary?