We have a family destination wedding this summer in Ibiza. It lasts five days, and all the events — dinners, boats, the wedding itself — start in the evenings from 7pm onwards. There are no daytime activities.
It’s my sister‑in‑law’s wedding, and my husband is one of three children. We’re the only ones with small children (1.5 and 3 years old). I’ve gone along with the plans so far because we haven’t had a full schedule, but I’m starting to feel worried. The family keep saying the children will be “fine”, that everything is child‑friendly, but realistically these timings won’t work for them at all. we are staying in a villa in the hills, so will have to trave be car, and the events dont have rooms etc that I could sit with the children in if they fall asleep etc.
It’s getting awkward because I’ve tried to gently suggest that we may not manage every evening, but I also don’t want to seem unhelpful. We will definitely dip in and out where we can, and of course, we’ll be at the wedding night.
There was also a suggestion that my husband could go to the events while I stay with the children and catch up with everyone in the day. I really don’t want the week — including my annual leave — to turn into me solo‑parenting two overtired toddlers while everyone else is out. My husband completely agrees and wants us to stay together so I’m not leaving events early or alone.
I’m a people pleaser, so I feel awkward raising this, but I also don’t want the trip to be stressful for the kids or for us.
Any advice would be really appreciated.