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Leaving my daughter with her dad.

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BellaRose24 · 02/02/2026 23:11

Hey, im a mum of 3, two boys 12 and 6 and my daughter who is 2.5. I’m a really keen on travelling the world but my husband is very much stay at home and work hard type of man. I really want to visit Indonesia in the summer as my children are off for 8 weeks. I’m happy to take all 3 children by myself but my husband said he isn’t comfortable with our daughter going (2.5years) as she is too little and would rather she stayed at home. Obviously this would make life easier for me overall but I’m not sure if I’d be ok leaving her. I would only go for 2 weeks but was considering a little longer if I had her with me. My eldest son thinks it’s a better idea as he thinks the flight is too long and is worried we will be too restricted. I’m really torn and have 100% mum guilt. Am I wrong if I go with just my boys?
my husband would be taking care of her and she would be with her childminder whist he works.

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BellaRose24 · 05/02/2026 22:25

mummybearSW19 · 04/02/2026 23:38

Go and have a great time with your boys. Travel to other places with her.

Thank you. Myself, my husband and daughter went to Italy in October and it was nice quality time with the 3 of us and the boys were fine about it.

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FriedFalafels · 06/02/2026 06:37

BellaRose24 · 05/02/2026 21:54

It’s hard isn’t it, I’d love for us to all go but he’s not a massive fan of travelling, he’s just very focused on work. Without sounding selfish, i want to see the world, I want that for my kids too, I get it’s not for everyone so we have to meet in the middle.

I don’t think taking a holiday is selfish. Some families are happy with a flop and drop beach holiday, others are more adventurous. It’s sounds like you’re the latter, yet your husband is neither. When you’re old and looking back on life, I doubt you’d regret it. I’d certainly not be looking back and thinking I wish I spent more time working rather than with my family. It sounds like your husband has his own business, if not and he’s an employee, he should possibly be reviewing his priorities as to why he puts work over his family.

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BellaRose24 · 02/02/2026 23:32

I work 4 days a week so she Is with her childminder 3 days a week and dad looks after her whilst working from home so to be fair it’s a joint effort. I do bed time usually, she has a bottle too so no problems there. She is a daddy’s girl for sure

Flip it, is she’s apart from your husband for 2 weeks she would miss him.
id leave her home and go with your older boys, your DD isn’t going to remember the trip anyhow x

noidea69 · 06/02/2026 09:20

Would it not be better to have a holiday all 5 of you want to go on together? Do the kids want to "see the world" or are they just wanting to mess about by a pool as a family.

BellaRose24 · 06/02/2026 17:02

noidea69 · 06/02/2026 09:20

Would it not be better to have a holiday all 5 of you want to go on together? Do the kids want to "see the world" or are they just wanting to mess about by a pool as a family.

We have a family holiday booked in April where we all go together. My kids lie a bit if both to be fair, I enjoy showing them the world.

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