Step Grandad wanting to stroke my child’s hair/face/neck

[Thepumpkinpatch85]

Hi.
Can you please help?
my husbands step dad keeps wanting my DD to sit on his knee. He then strokes her hair, face and neck. He makes comments like “I love stroking hair”
This makes me really uncomfortable but my husband says it’s just innocent.
The step grandad does it to the other grandchild. She’s 17 now and he still brushes her hair. A few years ago we were sat around the table and he said something along the lines of “you’re such a beautiful girl. Actually. No. You’re a woman now”
It horrified me.
He showed no interest in my DD until this year.
Am I being silly? Is it weird?
HELP.

Means you are not being unreasonable

To be honest, you are complicit in this. Your husband is afraid of upsetting his step father's feelings and you are afraid of upsetting his. This is exactly how men get away with so much crap. Everyone has to pussy foot around them and not damage their massive egos or their ever so tender feelings. If it was your mother in law doing something potentially harmful to your child, would you stay quite so silent on the subject?

It’s not the OP’s child who is 17. It’s the other grandchild.